The signs may not have been blatantly obvious but they were there. Was it a new perfume or cologne smell you did not recognize? No. But it did appear strange to you that calls to your spouse's cell phone were on the increase. They also started to occur at more peculiar hours.
You tried to rationalize it by concluding these calls just come with the territory. Your spouse besides working a very demanding job also has interest in building a business of their own. Or it could be that they have a lot of friends and family who stay in constant contact with them. Nothing wrong with that.
Except where as before they took most of the calls in front of you now they step out of the room once too often. If you happened to approach them unexpectedly, the look on their face may betray nothing but the body language screams, "What are you doing here?" You may not have consciously observed this but there is little doubt that it did not go unnoticed by your instincts.
Even the most brilliant minds that have made a lifetime study on the subject are at a loss to explain the power of instinct. It follows no logical pattern or reasoning process and it doesn't appear to even be based solely off an emotional response.
But the stories of it in action are legendary. Somebody who was just about to take a flight somewhere or get it their car to drive down a certain street were suddenly stopped in their tracks when their instincts started going off like an obnoxious alarm bell. But these folks listened and disaster was averted.
In the case of a cheating spouse the instincts can pick up on things which you are not noticing or cannot bring yourself to notice (understandable). For instance there could be a subtle shift in the dynamic of your relationship. You may not have picked up on the distance that appears to be growing between the two of you or even detected the slight chill that has taken over many of your conversations. But make no mistake; it didn't escape your instinct.
Oftentimes a spouse that has suspicions concerning their significant other's infidelity will dismiss these notions as just being paranoid or the ramblings of an over active imagination. Anything is possible when it comes to the human mind.
While it's understandable to want to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt that does not mean in the process you should ever sell your instincts short. More than trusting your partner, their words or even the reassurances from people outside the relationship, listening to your instincts comes down to trusting in yourself. It's not trying to break up your marriage but it makes no apologies for its efforts to protect you from harm.
Article written by Daryl Campbell -The Relationship Tip – How to find out in just 3 minutes if your spouse is cheating on you
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