Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Male sex help – simple tips on how to last longer in bed

by Ken Wilson

Sexual dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation, happen to many men, each day. That is why, in this male sex help guide I am going to give you a few easy tips on how to last longer in bed.

Especially young men run into this ugly problem – they shoot their load as fast as a speeding bullet. After 3 or 4 thrusts, they come and they feel embarrassed. Other male sex help guided will tell you to recourse to injections and all kinds of pill. However, after you will read this article about how to last longer in bed you will see that there is no need for such harsh and unpleasant actions.

Women can have multiple orgasms, one after another – and that can only be a pleasant thing. However, men need a short time after shooting their load in order to become hard again. However, the second load will always comes harder; the second orgasm will not be as fast as the first one. That is why, before meeting with your sex partner, it is advisable to spank your monkey in order to shoot your first load. This is not only about how to last longer in bed, but it can also help you concentrate on the foreplay. Draining your pipes before going on a date is one of the best male sex help advices you can get.

Also, you might want to masturbate once or twice a day. But, be careful not to come after three minutes or so. When you feel like blowing, pinch the head of the penis, wait for about five seconds, and then start masturbating again. Repeat this procedure as many times as you can, during one round of masturbation. This way, you will be able to fortify your mind control over the body, while increasing your stamina too. The girl besides will simply believe that you are a sex god, when pumping her. Also, when masturbating, the testicles get weary of producing such a huge mount of sperm in no time. This is yet another tip on how to last longer in bed.

The last male sex help suggestion I can give involves the activity of your brain. While having sex, do not think about the fact that you are having sex. Do not ponder on how good it feels, on how good it looks, just think on how you want to please your partner. The moment you think about the pleasurable outcome is the moment that you will blow your load. Think about her, about what you will do next, about the lovely conversation you had before having sex. As long as your mind concentrates on anything else but your own pleasure, your body will go on and on, as if you were a sex god. Just wait until she comes once or twice. Do not be impatient. Let her have her good time, over and over again. After that, your turn will come.

If you manage to last longer, the pleasure that you feel will also be more intense – you will feel your orgasm and you will be satisfied by the fact that she felt the same pleasure. This way, you will be sure that she will want you hard another time too.

And, since now you know how to act and react properly when in the company of a beautiful lady, she will want it as soon as possible. Because you have become a sex freak, you will be able to perform twice, or even three times during the same night. You have it all in you now. Women will scream your name while having a great orgasm – there is nothing more that I desire, as a man.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, you must know that the mind always plays an important part in the sexual intercourse. The best male sex help guides will surely tell you that

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Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Would You Date a Redneck Man?

by Fred Morris

Believe it or not, there are women out there who don't know the pleasures of having doors opened for them, doing the Boot-Scooting Boogie, or spending a night under the stars on the old deer stand (off-season) with a strong, warm man. This list of reasons to date a redneck man is just for them.

1.Girls grow up in love with horses...most of them, anyway. A redneck man is likely to know how to ride one, get enthusiastic about riding one with you, and may actually have a couple on his farm that match his cowboy hat and boot.

2.You are safe with a redneck man. No one in his right mind is going to mess with a guy who may have a gun hidden in his boot.

3.A redneck man was raised right by his mama. He will open your door, pull out your chair, treat you like a lady, and don't even think about going dutch!

4.Have you ever really looked at a cowboy?

5.You don't have to dress up. If you wear your tight blue jeans and a nice T-shirt, he'll be suitably impressed, and you should look just right for going out to Nascar, the honky-tonk, or to experience the thrills of mudding.

6.Rednecks are able to have more money than one would think because they don't spend it on bigger houses or trailers, designer clothes or pricey gadgets. They like things to be uncomplicated and simple. That does not mean a redneck does not believe in luxury; he just doesn't believe he has to impress the world.

7.Rednecks are typically brought up with conservative values. This makes them a bad choice for a hippie chick, but a perfect choice if you're looking for a nice guy to raise a family with.

8.More rednecks are heroes than non-rednecks. The average white-collar businessman probably wouldn't walk into a burning building. A redneck will. You'd be surprised how many firemen, cops, and soldiers are rednecks to the bone.

9.Rednecks have a great sense of humor. It comes from years of laughing at themselves, and their brother Jimmy who went fishing with dynamite.

10.Redneck men are good at knowing how to appreciate a lady the way she should be. If you look classy, you'll be treated that way. If you decide to look sexy, watch out! A redneck man is surprisingly good at picking up on your personal vibe at any given time. He also understands that no means no, probably because his mama knocked it into his head.

The real question: why do you want to date a redneck? If you're a redneck woman, the answer is obvious. If you're not, here's my bet: you've been exposed to rednecks who seem to have the ideals of a romantic hero. You're curious - are they really like that?

Yep, they are. And they're waiting for that perfect romantic heroine who's not afraid to get her hands dirty, the tough but feminine lady. You might just be her.

Fred Morris is the owner of RedneckandSingle.com an online community of over 18,000 single rednecks seeking romance, friendship, adventure, hunting, camping and fishing partners, and Nascar buddies. Visit RedneckandSingle.com and find your own redneck.

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Monday, June 23, 2008

Healthy sex life

by Generic Drugs: An economic option

General notion prevails that sex only provided pleasure and that's all. But there are so many other advantageous things related to sex have been proved by the researchers. It is now proved that sex is necessary for many more other reasons than just for physical pleasure.

Sex is a boom for health conditions. Sexual activity is a form of physical exercise. Making love three times a week burns around 7,500 calories in a year. It's the equivalent of jogging 75 miles. A night of love can raise the amount of oxygen in cells helping to keep organs and tissues functioning at their peak. Making love regularly can lower levels of the body's total cholesterol slightly, while positively changing the ratio of good to bad cholesterol.

Sexual activity also helps keep bone and muscles strong. According to Dr. Karen Donahey, director of sex and marital therapy program at Chicago's Northwestern University Medical center, "any kind of physical exercise is going to increase testosterone. Testosterone is believed to help keep men's bone and muscles strong."

And according to Dr. Beverly Whipple, president-elect of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, "sex can lower levels of arthritic pain, whiplash pain and headache. Hormones that are released during sexual excitement and orgasm can elevate pain thresholds."

A popular supplemental hormone called DHEA (Dehydropiandrosterone) is released naturally during lovemaking just before orgasm and ejaculation.

According to the researchers, prostate trouble may arise or be worsened by fluid buildup within the gland. Regular ejaculation will help wash out those fluids. Be cautious when suddenly changing frequency. Sudden changes may also trigger prostate problems. Donahey also opines that sex can be a very effective way of reducing stress levels.

An affectionate touch will increase levels of Oxytocin which is known as the "bonding hormone." It is a desire-enhancing chemical secreted by the pituitary. Regular Oxytocin release may help encourage frequent lovemaking. Regular lovemaking can increase a woman's estrogen level, protect her heart and keep her vaginal tissues more supple.

All this indicates that people who are avoiding sex or are unable to perform sex, actually depriving themselves of not only physical pleasure but also of many physical advantages. This is a caution for people who are ignoring their condition of Erectile Dysfunction which stops them from indulging in sexual activities. It's high time they suffered from it. Now they should ask their doctors about the generic drugs like generic Viagra, generic Levitra, Kamagra, Caverta, etc. which are less expensive medications for Erectile Dysfunction, get treated and get an improved sexual health and all the physical advantages along with that. One can also buy Sildenafil Citrate (ED treatment) and all the generic drugs online.

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Thursday, June 19, 2008

How to Spread Gods Word and Why

by Francis Hirak

How to spread God's Word is a question that can be difficult sometimes if we don't have the true understanding of how we as Christians should go about it. Keep in mind what Paul said, "I will not …speak of anything except what Christ has accomplished through me." Paul didn't place glory in what Christ had done for him, but in what Christ was doing through him. Now did you get the understanding of that?

Matthew 17:2-3 tells the story of the day that Jesus took his disciples to the top of the mountain where he was transfigured before them: "His face shone like the sun, and his clothes became as white as the light. And behold, Moses and Elijah appeared to them, talking with Him." Peter was so caught up in this spectacular event that he wanted them all to stay there. In verse 4 of the same chapter he says "Lord it is good for us to be here; if You wish, let us make here three tabernacles: one for You, one for Moses, and one for Elijah."

As you read further into the chapter, you can see that Jesus thought it more important to continue ministering and spreading His Word. Verse 14 begins the story of the demon possessed boy who suffered severe seizures that Jesus healed. The message we can take from this story is that there are definitely rewarding experiences when following Jesus' teachings but you'll never reap those rewards if you don't put the work in and focus on the goal at hand, which is spreading the Word of God to everyone.

Now we all know, as followers of our Lord Jesus Christ that it is a great thing to have such a spectacular experience with our God and Father; but we also know that as followers of our Lord we can't stay there. We have a lot of work to do if we are going to follow in his footsteps, and we as Christians have been called to do it.

Now that we know our Lord works through us, we have become God's vessels by means of Paul's statement and it's time for us to open up our hearts and start spreading the word to others as those who approach us with God's word. Now that our lives were saved through Jesus Christ through the use of God's vessels we have become God's vessels. Now that we are God's vessels, is it not our duty to spread the word as those who approach us?

Take notice how Jesus' disciples followed him throughout his ministry and they all had a different point of view yet at the same time leading to God's message. Their story varied a little bit, but when you read all their stories, you'll discover that one story will help you to better understand the other. It is the same as when your reading passages in the Bible, one passage will help you to understand the other.

You see brothers and sisters, we are all unique individuals and we all have our own way of relating God's message. Since we are all unique in our own way, we are given a different point of view on scriptures. Now, because of our uniqueness, one individual will find passages that will lead to the understanding of another passage where another individual may be having a difficult time with that passage and that is where you come in.

The point I am trying to get across is this, we all have a knowledge of certain scriptures that can help others and at the same time others have knowledge of scriptures that can help us. Why is it like that? You will find that a lot of us have our special books in the Bible that we keep going back to over and over again and after a wile you start to specialize in that book. Because now you start focusing whenever you hear someone giving their point of view of scriptures that relate to that book, then in turn , you go back and check it out, therefore giving you a better understanding. Therefore, by us all working together this will lead us to the true understanding of Gods knowledge and help us to grow stronger in God's Word and at the same time we are showing others how to spread God's Word.

Now that we are doing our part in spreading the word and giving people a better understanding of Gods knowledge, we are helping them to grow stronger. This is because they can now see all the great and true benefits as a result of following our Lord Jesus Christ. As they keep growing stronger in God's knowledge by Christ working through us (God's vessels) it won't be long before they to will start spreading God's word (and this would be a good thing in God's eyes.)

Now let us look at this to get the full understanding of what we are accomplishing by taking our part in spreading the word.

1. By us doing our part in spreading the word and opening up our hearts and allowing Jesus Christ our lord and Savoir to work through us, there are a lot of lives being saved just as we have been saved.

2. Through us spreading out our knowledge that we specialize in, you never know who will come across it and cause them to do a farther investigation and at the same time the Holy Spirit is pressing down on them.

3. Doing what we are supposed to be doing through passing along what we have learned so that others may also have this golden opportunity.

4. By us doing our part in spreading the word, we are not only doing our part, we are also showing others how to spread Gods Word. Now stop and think for a moment and give this some serious thought. By us doing our part through showing others how to spread Gods word, if you use your imagination you will see how far this will branch out and it started from you.

What is imagination? Ability to visualize: the ability to form images and ideas in the mind, especially of things never seen or experienced directly. Does that sound familiar to you?

If it is in your heart to spread the word and you don't know how to spread God's Word and want to reach out to many, than give the internet some serious thought by using it as your vehicle. Blogging ,writing articles, start an email newsletter, build a Christian website, these are all good ways to get the word out. And the best part about using these tools is that you can find them on the internet for free to low cost.

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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

When to consult a family law solicitor

by Mark Piercy

If you need advice on a family law problem, you should instruct a specialist family lawyer, who is a member of Resolution and committed to resolving family law disputes in a constructive and non-confrontational way, designed to preserve the dignity of all concerned and to encourage agreement. A small specialist firm can often provide a more personal and affordable service than a large firm with many departments and large overheads.

Mediation and collaborative law

Increasingly clients are encouraged to find ways of resolving issues by means other than court proceedings, such as mediation or collaborative law.

Divorce proceedings

Getting a divorce with the help of a family lawyer is usually straightforward. Divorce proceedings are seldom defended or require attendance of the parties at court. A simple divorce usually takes about 4 months from start to finish.

Divorce Children issues

If you can reach agreement about the care of your children, there will be no need for a court order. If there is disagreement, a family law solicitor can prepare proceedings to enable a court to make orders about residence and contact, or specific issues such as a child's education. The court will encourage the parties to reach agreement wherever possible but, failing agreement, will make any orders under the Children Act 1989 that are necessary in the interests of a child.

Financial issues arising from divorce

The courts have wide-ranging powers on divorce to redistribute income and capital assets. The courts powers are contained in the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973. To achieve a fair result the court considers all the circumstances of the case and the particular factors set out in section 25 of the Act. There is no set formula which the court applies. It is essential for each party to make full disclosure of your financial circumstances, including income, capital assets and pensions.

Child maintenance is generally calculated by reference to the Child Support Act. The parent with whom a child is not living will pay a percentage of his or her income by way of child support. The court has residual powers to order top-up maintenance in particular circumstances.

Pre-nuptial agreements

Before embarking on marriage, it might be wise to take advice from a family law solicitor about the advantages of a pre-nuptial agreement. The point of a pre-nuptial agreement is to agree what will happen if the marriage ends in separation or divorce. Increasingly, the courts are taking such agreements into account when a marriage breaks down. Such agreements need to be preceded by financial disclosure and each party should have the benefit of independent legal advice. They also need to be made at least 21 days before the wedding.

Cohabitation

If you are cohabiting, or thinking of cohabiting with another person, and particularly if you are contemplating a joint purchase of property, you should consider entering into a cohabitation agreement, in case your relationship breaks down and you need to decide what will happen to the property you live in or to assets which you have acquired together. A family lawyer can prepare a cohabitation agreement which will state how each party has contributed, or will contribute, and how the property will be divided in the future.

Inheritance claims

If you are financially dependent on another person (e.g. a spouse, cohabitant or parent) who dies without making reasonable provision for you in their will, you may be eligible to make a claim against their estate. A family lawyer can give you appropriate advice.

The best advice in all these circumstances is to consult a specialist family law solicitor.

Author's info:
Mark Piercy is a leading London family law solicitor, specialising in all areas of family law, including divorce and relationship breakdown, pre-nuptial and cohabitation agreements, issues relating to children and family inheritance claims. He practised for many years as a barrister and appeared as advocate in a number of reported cases. He has higher rights of audience as a solicitor. He is a member of Resolution, a CEDR accredited mediator and a collaborative lawyer. He has written articles and lectured on family law.

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Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Do You Know What To Do In Ending A Bad Relationship?

by Jane Hatton

So you've been in a relationship so long you probably figured that's all life can offer you. However if you've decided that there really is hope for you and you want to get on living life the way it's supposed to be lived for, then this article will help you figure it out.

You will need to understand to convey your message in a quiet place where there aren't a lot of onlookers or passersby that can listen in on what's happening. You will need to find a solitary place to let your partner know of your decision so that there is a mutual understanding of your decision.

Feeling stuck in a relationship is a common psychological trait that a lot of people have when they want to leave and it takes a lot of worthiness to admit to that fact. Once you finally admit to yourself and take stock of the relationship you will know what you need to do.

Above all else you do not need to blame yourself for the circumstances that you find yourself in right now and by the end of this article you will understand what you need to do and make yourself a better life if that is your decision.

So getting your message across to your mate must be done in a preferably quiet place where you won't be disturbed by anyone. It should be at a public place like a park where you will be able to walk away. If you have decided to end the relationship then you also must get rid of any possessions that might remind you of that person.

Keeping busy afterwards with social activities, exercising or doing stuff you always wanted to do is so important to take your mind off the emotional end of things. Sure it's hard to break up but keeping active with activities that are different is important for your psyche to handle.

Your decision to leave probably had to do with the feeling that you were stuck in the relationship with nowhere to go. Life is full of lessons to be learned. Breaking up a long term relationship is just one of many hurdles that you will probably encounter in life. If you have made up your mind in this matter then stop thinking about it altogether and end it in a friendly manner. Life is too short to be sad and mad.

Making sure that you don't blame yourself because things didn't work out they way you wanted it too is important to understand. If you harbor those types of thoughts they will come back to haunt you because you will start feeling guilty for yourself and for your mate.

You took the initial steps to convey your feelings and you probably took stock of the pros and cons of the relationship and you came out with a decision that this was a bad relationship and both of you should go your separate ways in life. No it is not easy to say or to do but if it needs to be said then say it. Right afterwards you need to refocus your attention on life and take a vacation.

Take a vacation anywhere in the world, take time off from work, you deserve it. Going through an emotional crisis like this requires that you regenerate your psychological batteries and get back in the groove of living life the way you want too.

Your mind and body will thank you for your decision because bad relationships are not worth staying in for any length of time. You tried to make it work but in the end it was a lesson to both of you.

So knowing what to do to end a relationship let alone ending a bad relationship is important to know. Hoping that these steps will allow you to avoid the guilty feelings that a lot of people go through and allow you to go through life with purpose and fun.

Hope and despair, positive and negative. Which do you want after a breakup? Of course you want a chance to fix things up but do you know what to do or what to say to get back on track? If you do then visit http://www.hopeandjoy4u.com for a chance to regain your relationship.

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Monday, June 16, 2008

Sign of a Cheating Spouse: You've Got A Feeling

by Daryl

The signs may not have been blatantly obvious but they were there. Was it a new perfume or cologne smell you did not recognize? No. But it did appear strange to you that calls to your spouse's cell phone were on the increase. They also started to occur at more peculiar hours.

You tried to rationalize it by concluding these calls just come with the territory. Your spouse besides working a very demanding job also has interest in building a business of their own. Or it could be that they have a lot of friends and family who stay in constant contact with them. Nothing wrong with that.

Except where as before they took most of the calls in front of you now they step out of the room once too often. If you happened to approach them unexpectedly, the look on their face may betray nothing but the body language screams, "What are you doing here?" You may not have consciously observed this but there is little doubt that it did not go unnoticed by your instincts.

Even the most brilliant minds that have made a lifetime study on the subject are at a loss to explain the power of instinct. It follows no logical pattern or reasoning process and it doesn't appear to even be based solely off an emotional response.

But the stories of it in action are legendary. Somebody who was just about to take a flight somewhere or get it their car to drive down a certain street were suddenly stopped in their tracks when their instincts started going off like an obnoxious alarm bell. But these folks listened and disaster was averted.

In the case of a cheating spouse the instincts can pick up on things which you are not noticing or cannot bring yourself to notice (understandable). For instance there could be a subtle shift in the dynamic of your relationship. You may not have picked up on the distance that appears to be growing between the two of you or even detected the slight chill that has taken over many of your conversations. But make no mistake; it didn't escape your instinct.

Oftentimes a spouse that has suspicions concerning their significant other's infidelity will dismiss these notions as just being paranoid or the ramblings of an over active imagination. Anything is possible when it comes to the human mind.

While it's understandable to want to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt that does not mean in the process you should ever sell your instincts short. More than trusting your partner, their words or even the reassurances from people outside the relationship, listening to your instincts comes down to trusting in yourself. It's not trying to break up your marriage but it makes no apologies for its efforts to protect you from harm.

Article written by Daryl Campbell -The Relationship Tip – How to find out in just 3 minutes if your spouse is cheating on you

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Friday, June 13, 2008

Are You Making This Mistake In Your Marriage?

by Larry Bilotta

I receive emails daily from people who ask me for advice, people who share their comments about articles I've written over the years and sometimes, I receive emails from people criticizing my point of view.Husband and wife arguing

All of which I am perfectly fine with.

But recently, I opened an email to find this shocking subject line, "Your comment that "Women don't leave great guys" is horse***t."

Okay, I admit, I'm reading closely now.

My comment, (actually my wife Marsha's quote), "Women don't leave great guys" brought about a firestorm of reaction from this particular man. I'll call him "Joe" to protect his privacy.

Now I always try to keep in mind that there are two sides to every story. But this article apparently struck a nerve with Joe compelling him to describe to me exactly how and why he was a great guy to his wife and yet - how his wife "repaid" him by drinking and running up all kinds of debt.

As he put it, "I was the great guy who did everything he could including working two jobs averaging 80 to 100 hours a week."

Joe then began driving his winning point home…

"I've asked myself what I did wrong. It was being too forgiving, too understanding and too honest. (Larry,) please think more about the 5% of men who really are great guys before you write another book", he stated.

Well, I didn't write a book on this topic, but instead it was an article which you can find here:

Does a Cheating Wife Inevitably Lead To Divorce?

But I offer Joe's point of view to you because it sheds some light on the big idea that I don't want you to miss.

When you're CONVINCED that you are good, that you are right, that you've been done wrong, and then make your case with no room to receive any other point of view, you've just risked going BLIND.

That's right, blind.

We all know it as self righteousness.

It happens when you've been hurt so bad by someone you love, know or trust, that you become SO angry…and you just can't see past your point of view.

But you can prevent this from happening before things get out of control.

Here's how…

The time to take a good, hard look at your marriage is NOW.

Look for the signs that your marriage is taking a turn for the worst.

And yes, although most spouses are completely shocked when their spouse tells them the marriage is over, there ARE several warning signs that should alert you to a serious problem in your relationship.

Here are 2 of these signs:

1. INTIMACY: Intimacy is the first place to look. When this starts going wrong, you know it because one person is complaining about it, resisting it or criticizing it. If you ignore these small signs and don't find a way to start talking about this important issue in a safe way the two of you can handle, the complaint gets buried and becomes fuel for resentment.

And that's when one spouse stops voicing their concerns and goes quiet. Not a good sign.

Which brings me to the next warning sign…

2. TALKING: Another bad sign that your marriage is taking a turn for the worst is when the talking stops. When intimacy goes bad, that should wake you up, but when talking goes sour - that should be a rude awakening.

Intimacy and communication are the two most important components of a fulfilling marriage. Don't pretend they're not important. They are.

I hope this blog post will cause you to take a second look at your marriage. Don't wait until it's too late. Even if you think you're the perfect husband or wife, your spouse may think differently. And ultimately, that's what matters most.

So what if your friends agree that you treat your spouse like gold. Who cares if you're able to be the sole supporter of your family?

If you want a fulfilling marriage, BOTH of you need to identify, and then meet each others' needs instead of being what YOU consider a "good husband" or a "good wife".

It's your spouses' perception of you that counts.

If your marriage is failing, instead of looking to blame your spouse for your marriage problems, look in the mirror and put yourself in your spouses' shoes. Ask your spouse what criteria s/he defines as a good husband or wife.

What you find may surprise you.

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Thursday, June 12, 2008

Planning your Wedding in Toronto

by Dave Page

In the course of every individual's life, he must go through the process of planning his own wedding, and how spectacular the wedding is and entertained the guests are all depends on how much time and effort the bride and groom puts forth into the planning process.

Whether the person is organized and professional is all shown through one's own wedding. Typically, if a couple is planning to marry, they should start planning the ceremony of their lives one year ahead of time. Especially in a busy city such as Toronto, planning ahead is important since numerous wedding services are constantly in demand. Not only will a couple succeed with good organization skills, good innovative thinking and creativity will also play a large role in creating the perfect Toronto Wedding.
First and foremost, before a couple decides the details of their wedding, they must decide on a specific date and setting. As soon as the time and location has been chosen, it would be wise to reserve the location immediately to avoid possible conflicts with others who are planning their wedding in Toronto. There are hundreds to thousands of beautiful wedding reception facilities and banquet halls in Toronto, and choosing the right one may take some time. As soon as the time and location is set, it would be a good idea to draw up a guest list, which actually takes an unbelievably a long time to do.

After the couple has selected their Toronto wedding location and date, they can start looking for numerous assets and services for their wedding. Choosing the bride's wedding dress nine to twelve months before the wedding allows the bride ample time to select the perfect dress for her special night. It will also give her time to request modifications or changes if needed. Allow a few months time to carefully select the perfect decorations, chair covers, and lien. It would also be wise to spend more time in deciding the right wedding photographers in Toronto, since there are thousands of them to choose from. Choosing the right photographer is essential and possibly one of the most important parts of a Toronto wedding because these photos will be the memory pieces of the beautiful moments during the wedding.
Another crucial aspect that should be planned at least nine months before the Toronto wedding is selecting the wedding cake. The wedding cake is like a monument representing the couple in the wedding. The creativity and design of the wedding cake allows the couple to stand out during their wedding. Not only will an elegant and large wedding cake bring praises from guests, it will also instill pride within the couple, as having one of the most unique wedding cakes in Toronto.

In about half year's time, the to-be-married couple should start creating their menu and reserve their caterers in Toronto if they have not done so. Food is also another important aspect in a wedding and is a way to show the elegance and grandeurs of the Toronto wedding. The type of food should match the decorations and central theme of the wedding. If the reception facility is a Chinese restaurant, then the food and decorations should be of an Oriental theme. Choosing the right caterer is important to deliver the best and most delicious food to impress guests.

Three months before the wedding, most of the planning such as decorations, live music and entertainment should be completed. It would also be a good time to reserve limousines or other modes of transportation to the wedding. The traditional arrival for the marrying couple is through riding Toronto wedding limousines, but one can be creative and choose something else such as motorcycles, old-fashioned vehicles or even helicopters. Be brave and try something new! Not only will a creative mode of transportation to a wedding impress guests upon arrival, it will also be fun and an enjoyable experience for the bride and groom.

With two months to one month before the grand wedding, everything should be all well planned out. The marrying couple should be in their final stages of planning. Booking make-up, hairdressers, and beauty salons should be done during this time. Also, buying gifts and favors should also be started since they are a big hassle if left to the last week before the wedding. Everything should be finalized and almost ready. Vows and speeches should be already drafted and ready to go.

If planned efficiently, the final weeks before a wedding should not be too extremely stressful. If caterers and other services have not been confirmed, it would be a wise idea to give them a call. Also give a call to all guests as a reminder of the grand Toronto wedding. Basically, the last few weeks before the wedding should be all about confirmations and making sure everything will go smoothly as planned on that special day. Have several rehearsal dinners to make sure everything will go perfectly smooth. This time would also be a good time for bachelor and bachelorette parties and close bonding with future in-laws and friends.

The amount of stress before and wedding and the grandeur impressions from guests all depends on how much time and organization the bride and groom decides to put forth. If one if dedicated and organized, the process of this commonly-deemed tedious task in planning a wedding will go as smoothly as slicing butter. With great planning and organization, the bride and groom will be able to sit down for a cup of coffee even before the day of their Toronto wedding.

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Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Avoiding Addictive Personalities

by DC Setter

Whether you are a parent, friend, student, teacher, boss, co-worker, employee, patient, counsellor, manager or partner, having to be involved with an addict can and will drain you mentally, physically and financially.

Having grown up amongst alcoholics, I readily adapted to some of the drinking culture popular in the military and construction industries. It was not until I took a good look around to break away from this kind of life style.

Boozing was only part of the problem. Drugs, gambling and compulsive spending were other activities that brought the same misery with it. Without going into too much detail of lost fortunes, broken homes and crippled health, I will go directly to the source of the problem: the addict themselves.

It takes no genius to figure out the role of alcohol and drugs in street crimes. Alcohol or drugs can incapacitate a victim or make a criminal aggressive or reckless enough to swindle, steal from, assault or injure someone. This is not to be confused with the occasional happy hour drinker or recreational user of drugs. The addict is someone who lives for certain drugs or activities like gambling.

FINANCIAL ABUSE
Financial abuse is a soft word for incompetence, lying and theft. Addicts are always a bad risk with money. Ironically, the addict will often prey on the very people who try to help them. Most of us know a co-worker who constantly mooches money and favors, but turns ugly towards the same people who help them out.

Alcoholics and drug addicts can be very extravagant, especially with other people's money. A typical example is the guy who always has to borrow twenty bucks as he is certain to have a "hot date." The situation can never wait. Like a gambler, his big chance to score is now and never later. When you try (and try) to collect, the excuses usually run anywhere from trouble with his or her ex, car payments or so many people owe him money that he can only pay you when those "dead beats" pay up. A favorite excuse is "well, _______owes me twenty, so collect off of him." Another excuse for not paying back is "What? After all of the favors I've done for you? Man, you owe me."

Marriage, family and even a top secret security clearance might mean stability to some people, but it is not the rule. I recall a military guy with both a top secret security clearance and a family, who was in charge of his training course's party fund. At the end of the course, the party fund was empty. Gone.

The fraternity brother, army buddy or team mate is always a bad risk if they are a "party-goer." I had an ex-army buddy, who started an entertainment company. If a week passed when he did not brag about his new extravagant lifestyle like $20-a-hole golf games and $200 champagne, I was sure to mark it on my calendar. His company was doing just great, for a while. Then the money ran out, the products stopped selling and trouble started with the securities commission. The stock was worth pennies, partners left and the office closed. I should have clued in to the constant pot smoking, the parties, the over-priced automobile and the domestic problems occurring around that office. One just kind of over-looks some of these behaviors, until it is too late.

The alcoholic or addict must always prove that he is better than someone else. He or she will continually set people up to put them down. Whether it is hanging up the telephone on someone, belittling them in public or physical bullying, it is non-stop.

Here's a typical tactic. The addict will sometimes maneuver a woman to stay over at his place. Whether by keeping her out late, spiking her drink, insisted that they both had too much to drink, etc. Since he did not take advantage of her, he gains trust. Furthermore, he now has her feeling guilty and shamed over sleeping over. He has technically scored points to his own ego by having her over within the first few dates. Now he also has her within his territory, so to speak. He might even brag what a morale giant that he is.

This might sound downright weird, but an addict will deliberately put on big displays of their own righteousness. They will rant about other alcoholics and insist that they "don't drink anymore." They constantly remind people of that "fact."

One trait that I have noticed of heavy drinkers, especially in the military, is their habit of working very hard or appearing to, for short periods. They usually will not follow a consistent routine, but tend to slack off and then put on a good show of energy in front of peers or supervisors. I remember a guy in the signals regiment who would drink until sun up. A couple of times during our morning run, he would suddenly sprint to the front of the group and then pass out on the grass. I have to admit, it did provide entertainment for an otherwise boring run.

Alcohol/Drug addiction can also be revealed in over-achievement. The addicted people will work in any trade, from judges to scientists, but a high number tend to be in the fields of acting, construction, military, politics (like that is a surprise) and bureaucracies. Once in a position of power, they can wreck havoc on those around them. (Note: Adolf Hitler had a reputation of being a heavy amphetamine and barbiturate user since the 1920's.)

Alcoholics have severe mood swings. Most violent acts happen between binges when the addicts are experiencing withdrawals. This is to say that a sober alcoholic, even a panhandler can be more violent sober than when drunk.

Addicts are such good liars because they repress memories of their bad performances and they physically undergo "blackouts." Blackouts can occur while the addict is still totally functional, yet their brains will have no memory of the event. As far as they are concern, they did nothing wrong. This trait can also make the addict, a fall guy for crime. (One such former heavy drinker and petty criminal, David Milgaard, once blacked out in the wrong part of town. Namely, near the area where a nurse had been murdered. Milgaard was found guilty and spent 20 years in jail before new evidence proved otherwise.)

Simple indicators of addicts are:

• Mood swings;

• Financial problems;

• Heavy tobacco, caffeine and sugar consumption;

• Poor eating habits; and

• Constant excuses for being late or off work.

Remember, addicts, like social drinkers, do not start out as criminals. Sometimes they can recognized their problem and work at changing it. Other times they do whatever to keep a supply of alcohol or drugs always on hand, regardless of the cost to those around them.

Other indicators can be found by reading the book: One Less Victim

Doug Setter holds a Bachelor's of Human Ecology. He has served as a paratrooper and U.N. Peacekeeper, has completed 5 full marathons and climbed Mt. Rainier. He consults and instructs clients in weight-loss, muscle-gain, stomach-flattening, kick-boxing and outdoor survival. He is the author of Stomach Flattening and One Less Victim and manages 2nd Wind Body Science. www.2ndwindbodyscience.com

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Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Married and Cheating: Two Can Play That Game

by Daryl

After months of self denial, you have finally accepted the reality. Friends who cared about you tried to warn you but you dismissed them as nothing more than busybodies whose relationships was so suspect that they had nothing better to do with their "miserable" lives than interfere in your relationship.

It happens. Sometimes people who are supposed to have your best interest at heart love to stir up trouble. But that's not all there was too it. You heard the discrepancies in a number of things your significant other told you but just chalked to up to a faulty memory. Unfortunately it didn't stop there. Unexplained changes in habits like new clothes, or hairstyle began to appear in addition to them going out by themselves a little more.

You tried to give them the benefit of the doubt even though your instincts were ringing like a fire alarm. But when the unexplained credit card charges and suspicious phone calls started happening you knew something was going on. After a little investigative work, your suspicions were confirmed. Your spouse is having an extramarital affair.

Clinical psychologist Janis Abrahms Spring the author of "After the Affair" estimates marital infidelity affects one out of every 2.7 couples. While 50% of extramarital affairs last less than one month that comes as no comfort to anyone, particularly when the odds of a cheating spouse stopping after just one affair are slim.

There are really no good choices when you find out your significant other is cheating but one possibility has to be classified as the nuclear option. No it's not ending the relationship altogether but the other one that says what's good for the goose is more than okay for the gander. Go out and have an affair of your own.

You may have seen this scenario played out on numerous television shows over the years, where one partner suspects the other so they go out and find someone to have a liaison of their own. In the end it was all one big misunderstanding and they wind up living happily ever after.

In real life? Not so much. You may do it in the hopes that your significant other finds out and it jolts them back to reality. Most times it does not. Call it ego or a glaring blind spot but a cheating spouse can become amazingly jealous when they find out their other half is also out fooling around.

Or maybe you just so angry that you don't care. As far as you're concerned they are the ones that damaged the relationship not you. If they want to go out and have enjoyment at your expense then two can play that game. Let the chips fall where they may and if the marriage ends so be it as long as you can have some fun and hurt them just as much as they have hurt you.

It's understandable to want to get back at someone that has thrown away the love and commitment you have given them. But revenge is rarely worth it. Two wrongs do not make a right. While there are no good choices when it comes to a cheating spouse fooling around to get back at your significant other is definitely the worst choice. It is better to get out of the relationship than to stick around and pour more gasoline onto the fire.

Article written by Daryl Campbell -The Relationship Tip – What are the worst mistakes people make when they think they're being cheated on?

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Friday, June 6, 2008

Using Maxiderm Patches To Enhance Relationship With Your Loved One

by Peter Kye

Erectile dysfunction is a serious male problem that affects millions of men worldwide. While drugs have predominantly been the 'savior' to affected males, other newer forms of male enhancement products have appeared in the market with many men finding success with Maxiderm patches.

Erectile dysfunction is a condition viewed by many as a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to achieve or maintain an erection while having sex with a partner. This causes problems in a relationship as the male partner feels as if he is inadequate in bed. He may feel as though he is not a 'real man,' and it may cause frustration and anxiety not just to him but to his partner as well.

So, how do you know whether you have erectile dysfunction ("ED")?

Well, you might be suffering from this disorder if you become quite nervous about having sex based on a bad experience or an episode of impotence.

Embarrassment is to be expected when you are unable to perform in bed. This is a terrible and vulnerable feeling to experience, especially in front of your partner. The sad part is that most of those who have had a bad experience with their partners eventually tend to avoid intimate situations. This can then lead to distance between you and your partner, and turn into relationship problems and worse situations in the end.

Because of the gravity of the situation for many men, several treatments have already been devised for ED. These include therapy, drugs, patches, exercises etc. For men who have ED that is caused by psychological problems, a therapy may be suggested by the doctor. Therapy will deal with the issues that have resulted in one way or another in erectile dysfunction. Therapy can also aid with regards to the relationship problems and help you to cope psychologically. As for drugs, there are several popular drugs on the market today for dealing with erectile dysfunction. These drugs include Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra and are primarily enzyme inhibitors. These help partial erection problems by relaxing the muscles in the genital and improving blood flow. Unfortunately, there are also negative effects that will surface with the use of these drugs.

Thankfully, there are also alternative treatment methods that are effective and safe.

One such method is the use of Maxiderm patches to treat ED as well as to improve your sexual performance and over all reproductive health. These patches have been gaining popularity over drugs because they have been proven to be safe (with its all-natural ingredients) and effective (with its transdermal technology). The product technology ensures the gradual release of potent ingredients to your blood and circulatory system allowing for faster effects in a more precise manner.

With Maxiderm Patches, you no longer have to worry about feelings of self consciousness and anxiety before having sex. With your increased sex drive and libido, your partner will appreciate you for the longer love-making sessions and the multiple orgasms that are likely to be experienced each time. Your desire of improved intimacy and relationship with your partner is not far away.

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Thursday, June 5, 2008

New and Unique Ways to Use Wedding Linens

by Janet Ireland

Wedding linens do indeed bring style and colorful magic to wedding receptions. People across the world use linens to create stylish fashion and atmosphere that guests can enjoy during the wedding reception. For some people, this can be a problem since they do not want their wedding to look like everyone else's. There are a few ways to use wedding linen rentals in new, interesting, and unique ways. By using these newer and more unique style ideas, you can be sure your wedding reception will be visually appealing.

Layering Linens on Tables

Layering material on the tables with multiple wedding linens is a great way to get creative with you wedding linen rentals. Most all reception setups have a single tablecloth for each guest table. However, by using multiple table linens in different colors and textures, you are adding a different design element to the reception. This creates depth in your design, and looks great on tables.

Using Colors and Table Linens to Designate Tables

Different colored table linens as part of your wedding linens can be a great way to use linens in a new and unusual way. Everyone has attended a wedding reception with every table looking the same. However, by using different colors for table linens, you are creating an interesting and new design aesthetic to your reception.

Chair Cover Styles

Many people do not realize that there are different ways to use wedding linen rentals as far as chair covers are concerned. Just like table linens, chair covers can be different heights and styles. To create different looks, some people prefer to rent chair cover linens that cover only part of the chair with a portion of the legs exposed. Others may want to cover the chair completely. Some want the chair cover to stop at the floor, while others may want it to pool at the bottom with extra fabric. A way to make it different is to have huge, billowing, draping chair covers instead of the tighter style of chair covers.

Accessories on Chair Covers

By adding accessories to chair covers, you can change the design of your reception to actually incorporate the colors of the chairs. Whether you are using ribbons, simple fabric, bows, real or artificial flowers, you are adding a design that many people do not find at wedding receptions and presumably a style setup that will be remembered for years.

Using Colors and Chair Covers to Designate Tables

You can use accessories on the chair covers to designate certain tables. Using wedding linen rentals to designate different tables gives you an opportunity to play with color in a way that is not done too often. By changing colors, you are adding depth to your design.

While everyone seems to use wedding linens for their wedding reception needs, it is fun to try to find different ways to use the linens to enhance the design of the reception. By simply thinking out of the box, you too can have unique and new ways to use wedding linens.

Janet Ireland writes wedding decorating articles for Magical Party Rentals, a premier Internet resource to assist you in accenting your special day with the finest wedding linen rentals.

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Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Teen Sex Statistics – Do “Trendy Sexual Behaviours” Give Reason to Brag

by kacycarr

How great is the number for those who indulge in teen sex, regardless of numeral configuration, even if that number be one, then it is a problem and more so if both parties are unaware of what can rise from having unprotected sex. The outcome can be that of falling pregnant or catching a sexually transmitted disease (STD.) Okay, getting together with the opposite sex will eventually happen at some time or other (if gay same agenda) so why not make that some time "the right time." When is the right time, this will depend on what your beliefs are as to whether 15 16 17 years is ideal for a sexual relationship. Remember it is a crime to have underage sex. If you are adamant to go ahead with coupling then at least do your homework first. You need to consider all possibilities which contribute to an unwanted pregnancy occurring or worse still catching a disease that can do more damage that you can imagine
Sex statistics should never really be taken seriously because of imperfect measurements. Getting people to talk about their sex lives honestly is a difficult mission, especially if it includes a group that is in any way marginalized, as teens are. However study goes on, to help describe and understand sexual behaviours among teens. Here are some facts on statistics and sexual behaviours of interest?

In America nearly half of all 15-19-year-olds have had sexual intercourse at least once. By the age 15, only 13% of teens have ever had sex, you are breaking the law at this age. By the time 19, seven in 10 teens have had sex. The norm we find for having sex for the first time is that of 17. Teens are wising up to the dangers than that of in the past where teen sex was greater in number. Thankfully teens are taking heed of the alerts telling of the dangers from having unprotected sex. Thirteen percent of females and 15% of males aged 15-19 in 2002 had had sex before age 15, compared with 19% and 21%, respectively, in 1995.

In England and Wales, the law on Sexual Offences were changed. However the legal age for young people to consent to have sex still remains at 16, whether you are straight, gay or bisexual. Although the age of consent remains at 16, the law will make no intervention unless it involves abuse or exploitation. Under the Sexual Offences Act you still have the right to confidential advice on contraception, condoms, pregnancy and abortion, even if you are under the legal age. In the US different states may have different age laws for legal sex.
Unfortunately we still have the minute few who believe they know it all until the inevitable happens. Many teens are prepared to take sexual risks despite more than ten years of public warnings. Teen sex should never be an event of chance in hope God will make things right should they go wrong. Nip it in the bud so no prayers have to be said in regards to falling pregnant or catching an STD. The outcome of intensive research showed new infections of the Aids virus in 1999 were the highest in over 10 years.

In reply from some teens who were asked why so early for sex, was, "it is trendy and everyone one else is doing it" so why not me. Another point of interest was, it was a way of showing off where teens would boast "Hey everyone I have done it." Well this may be the in thing to do but did you ever give any thought to showing off a bump on the belly or a prison ID number when having your mug shot photo taken.

Many teens openly admit to that of feeling pressurized to lose their virginity. The most prominent fear from having unprotected sex was highlighted as to an unwanted pregnancy (88%) and 87% said an STD. To keep safe you have to think condom. Using a condom is one of the safest forms of birth control used and a powerful deterrent against catching a sexually transmitted disease.

We have the male and female condom. The male condom is made of thin latex (rubber) or polyurethane and fits over an erect penis. Condoms are lubricated to make them easier to use.
A condom acts as a barrier between the penis and the vagina, the penis and the mouth, or the penis and the anus. This does not mean sexual intercourse can not take place. A condom will cover the entire penis to prevent sperm entering the vagina.

For women the female condom is made from soft polyurethane and is located inside the vagina. It is held in place by a ring at either end; it lines the vagina and stops sperm getting into it. Using condoms bring no side affects unlike some other forms of contraception.
The female condom if properly inserted is 95% effective. Condoms have been known to split. Problems which occur from using the female condom is - if it slips or moves out of place from not being properly inserted. You can find out more at any family planning clinic where contraception and advice is given freely

Below some useful resource centres should you need help and advice?

1 Get Connected - One-stop helpline for young people. This organization evolves round youngsters who feel they want to run away from home or have already done so. Services include compassionate support, help and guidance.
Helpline: 0808 808 4994 open 1pm-11pm seven days a week

2 Childlike - an organization which provides a free, confidential telephone counselling service for children or young people regardless of what the nature of the problem is.
National helpline: 0800 1111. Open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

3 Avert services are more connected to health
International aids & medical research charity.
Telephone: 01403 210202

Never be frightened or to embarrassed to seek help. Prevention is better than any cure. Pick up the phone for a brighter future.

4 bpas (British Pregnancy Advisory Service)
Telephone: 0845 730 4030
Organization of many options i.e. dealing with unplanned pregnancy, emergency contraception, free pregnancy testing and vasectomy services.

Teen Sex
Vaginal Odour
Male Erection Problems

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Thursday, May 29, 2008

5 Signs You're Ready to Start Dating Again

by Trisha Stone

1. Can't Get Him Out of Your Head

Is it driving you mad? You are still waking up in the morning and your first thought is "him". Even in the middle of the night you are lying away he is the only thing you think about. You can't get to sleep for turning everything that has happened in the relationship endlessly around in your head.

You start to notice that when you wake in the morning you are thinking about other things in your life than "him"! In fact, you are realising that you are quite enjoying your life at the moment. Finding time to be with your friends. Beginning to think about your career again and what you can do to get to the next stage. A friend has suggested going on a trip together and you are excited by the idea of trying something new.

Dating Readiness Sign #1: When you are no longer fixated on your life with your ex. and your thoughts are changing you know that life is moving on for you. Getting over a relationship takes time but slowly you will begin to feel better about everying. This is not a place of denial but about coming to terms with the fact that life is taking a different path.

2. You Are No Longer Angry

Whether you wanted to end the relationship or not it is often the case that you will go through a period of anger or bitterness. Sometimes the anger is outward facing - it is all about "him". He this, he that, he.... Sometimes you turn the anger and bitterness inwards. In this state you start to question what you have done, what you could have done etc. You hear yourself repeating lots of negative messages to yourself and a lot of self-blame goes on.

Dating Readiness Sign #2: Now you recognise the good and bad parts about the relationship and about your own contribution. This is a time when you have learnt to take responsibility for what has happened, even if it was he who wanted to end the relationship. Suddenly you find yourself simply fed up with thinking this way about "him" or about men in general. You do really like them, after all, and realise that this last relationship just didn't work for you.

3. You Are No Longer Hoping

However much you try not to, you have found yourself fantasising about him that he will realise that he has made a mistake and will come back to you. This is very common - to believe that if you keep "hoping" everything will come right with you it will. This becomes very dangerous when it takes up too much of your headspace and you can't think about anything else. As long as you hold on to that "hope" you will not move forward.

Dating Readiness Sign #3: When you no longer spend your time "hoping" that things could be different. When you are no longer fixated by the ex-relationship. When you notice that you have spent a whole day, a weekend, and not thought about "him" because you were having too much fun, then you know you are ready to date again.

4. You Take Responsibility

It is so easy to blame others, the world, the other woman, or anything when things go wrong in our lives. Sometimes there may be factors outside your control that have hindered your past relationships. Do you find yourself always believing that it was something to do with someone else that caused the break-up? There are always two people in a relationship and each person has to recognise their own responsibility.

Dating Readiness Sign #4: Being prepared to accept your part in the relationship is a big step. Whatever has happened something of what you did, even if it was just choosing the wrong person for you in the first place, is your responsibility. When you have got to where you can be thoughtful and honest with yourself you know that you are ready to date again.

5. Guess What? You're Happy

Suddenly life feels better. You are going out doing new things, meeting new people. Even better - when you are alone you find that you are enjoying your own company. What's more you have much more energy. You have a spring in your step and a let's get on with it attitude to your life.

Dating Readiness Sign #5: However long it takes there will be a time when you find that you are happy again. This will not be an overnight occurrence, but will grow slowly over time, and this may depend on how long you were in the past relationship.

Losing a relationship that has been meaningful to you is a kind of bereavement and you have to move through the same kind of stages. When you have recognised all the dating readiness signs then it is time to go out there again. Don't be tempted to do this before you are ready, because all you will do is take some of the old stuff with you. Allow yourself as much time as you need - it really isn't a race! Better to be in good balance so that your next relationship has a really good chance to be the right one for you. Good luck.

Trisha Stone, relationship coach, knows that what single women over 30 want is a loving long-term relationship. To get immediate access to 3 FREE recordings of relationship teleclasses with Trisha by clicking here

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

Evian Conference

by Dr. D.S. Merchant

Imam Sultan Muhammad Shah had called a Conference in Evian, France known as the Evian Conference between July 4, 1952 and July 8, 1952 to discuss various economic and social problems confronting the African Ismailis and also to make necessary amendments in the Constitution of the African Councils. It was attended by 40 members including the President and the Secretary of the Supreme Council, the Presidents of the Provincial Councils and of the Ismailia Association, educational administrators, the managing director of the Jubilee Insurance Company, and three members of the East African Legislative Council.

The health of the Imam was impaired and confined to bed. Even in this state of health, he spared five complete days to hear the verbal and written reports and had a total sitting of 18 hours with the delegates. One of the major decisions reached at the Conference urged all Ismaili women of East Africa to adopt western dress for political and economic reasons. At the end of the Conference, the Imam sent following cable message:-

Aixles Bains

Very glad to hear various excellent resolutions Evian Conference carried out in spirit and letter. All those who help receive double blessings. Very glad ladies intend when new clothes ordered have western fashion economic material clothes made as Burma for all unity with new western African ideals. For economic reasons old-fashioned clothes should be worn till used up by time and age when new clothes ordered new fashion should become general

Soon after the Conference, the wives of the leaders responded thereby setting an example for the rest of the community. The Ismailia Association arranged lectures by missionaries in the Jamatkhana to encourage women to adopt western dress. This particular guidance is a good illustration of the Imam's reasoning in urging change on his people. He saw that adopting western dress would make it easier for Ismailis to be identified with and assimilated into the indigenous population. Various changes were also brought about in the school curriculum. Gujrati was gradually replaced by English as the medium of instruction. It was decided to introduce French as the second language. Emphasis was also placed on the teaching of commercial subjects for boys and domestic science for girls. Changes were made also to help Ismailis obtain higher education. The Gold Grant Committee of 1937 was taken over by the Central Committee in 1946 with a fund of $. 44,860 and an annual grant of $. 13,458 from the Imam. The grant was later raised to $. 157,000. Because of limited communal resources, it was decided after the Evian Conference that bursaries would be granted for those professions only of direct benefit to the community. Further, changes in the distribution of education at a time when education became more important for material success gave rise to new interest groups. Economic power was no longer associated only with business but also with the professions. A corollary effect of increased educational opportunity was the changing role of women, which in turn had its effect on the family. Unlike other Muslim women, the Ismaili women were no longer limited to the traditional role of housewife. But the main effect of educational opportunity on the woman's changing role was to open a broader range of career possibilities. The change in the role of women, then, was more in terms of a climate of opinion which allowed them increasing latitude and independence.

Clearly, the Imam's own willingness to accept new ideas, his skill in translating them into guidance and in channeling them through the councils, while communicating with his people at large, were important forces in creating change while perpetuating continuity. Imam Sultan Muhammad Shah lived at a time when vast changes were occurring, and he realized that the success of his followers depended on their capacity for accommodating to these changes while maintaining their cultural identity. The Imam also said, "Ismailism has survived because it has always been fluid. Rigidity is contrary to our whole life and outlook" (Memoirs of Aga Khan, p. 185).

Mumtaz Ali Tajddin S. Ali is an popular Ismaili Scholar, Written many books on Islam and Ismailism, Evian Conference is taken from Encyclopedia of Ismailism, also read 101 Ismaili Heroes



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Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Was An Addictive Relationship What You Really Wanted?

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An addictive relationship is not a pleasent thing to deal with, though millions of people are in bad relationships that are no good for them. Unhealthy relationships lead to abuse, drug use, depression, and to people's lives being in a very negative place. Addictive relationships can be hard to define, and therefore it can be hard to tell if you are in one. However, a bad relationship is something to take seriously, and if you can figure out that you are in one, you are one step closer to getting out of it so that you can get into a good relationship.

An addictive relationship tends to isolate either or both partners from the outdide world. It is identical to drug or alcohol dependence. It is something that keeps them apart from the things they really love and tasks they should be accomplishing. An addictive relationship is truly a dysfunctional relationship because it is defined by an increasing craving to be with a person, and by withdrawal symptoms that go along with being away from them. It also has the some of the same signs as other addictions, such as low self-esteem, passivity, magical thinking, lack of initiative, and helplessness.

There are seven things that you can see in an addictive relationship. If you find that your relationship has these things or any number of them, chances are good that you are in a bad relationship, and should consider getting out of it.

1. If you feel that you are magnetically drawn to another person, even if the person is not good for you, it might be a dysfunctional relationship. This might include a person that is too far away, married, not interested, or emotionally unavailable. If these things are true about your partner, yet you feel like you are drawn to them, it could be an addictive relationship.

2. If changing the other person to want you want them to be is your goal, you are in a losing situation. People will not change just because you hound them. If you find yourself constantly thinking that the relationship would be perfect if the person could just change a little bit, it is a sign of a bad relationship.

3. KNowing the realtionship is bad for you, and you are not able to get out of it is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. you may not feel deserving of a positive relationship, perhaps you are so worried about the others reaction to a break up you lose sight of your own needs. no matter what, these are the signs of a bad relationship.

4. If you notice the realtioships of other happy people seem boring compared to yours, it may be a sign you are hooked on the chaos of an addictive relationship. There is a big probability that you would spurn these people to stay in your current relationship.

5. If you don't feel that you can be independent within your relationship, even though you might be independent in other areas, it might be a sign of an addictive relationship.

6. If it is hard to say 'no' and stick to it and you find yourself always giving in to your partners needs, this is another sign.

7. If your relationship makes you feel self-doubt, it is a sign that your relationship is dysfunctional.

If you find that you are in an addictive relationship, the best thing to do is to get out of the relationship. However, seek help from family and friends, and even professionals, so that you can avoid going back to the person, and so that you can learn how to appreciate yourself long enough to find a successful and good relationship.

Addictive relationships are no fun, but sometimes a fact of life. Are your life relationships not going well? The good news is at least you are looking for some information and help on healing those dysfunctional relationships. Visit: http://AddictionRecoveryBasics.com

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Monday, May 12, 2008

Getting the best out of one night

by sizzlinwebcams

Sex education may be widely accepted but one topic rarely discussed is erectile dysfunction also known as male impotence. This is basically the inability of a man to sustain or develop an erection. The most common known causes of male impotence are physiological and psychological. Physiologically, it is related to poor physical health, obesity, cardiovascular diseases and poor eating habits. Psychological impotence happens when a man fails to express his thoughts and feelings.

The earliest record known of erectile dysfunction can be traced back to Muslims in the medieval Islamic world. Folk cures have been in use for sometime but it was only in the 1920s and 1930s that a medical cure was advocated for impotence. This was initiated by Dr. John R. Brinkley through his radio programs which were aired in Kansas those days. In the 1970s, the use of penile implants made its way in the medical field as doctors started prescribing its use. The advance in erectile dysfunction medication came with phentolamine as demonstrated by the British psychologist Giles Brindley.

Sex is no longer a taboo. Yes, I know you know that but while it this is true in the United States, other nationalities have trouble discussing it. This is probably the reason why some people find it difficult to buy condoms and contraceptive pills in pharmacies, imagine how people would have the courage to buy Viagra – one of the most popular brand names of medication for male impotence. This is also the reason why more people opt to buy generic Viagra online.

It was also found that brand generic Viagra, when bought from a Viagra online pharmacy is a lot cheaper than those bought from the local pharmacy. However, those needing this medicine need to contact their doctors as it is sold in different dosages, and you might need to take the lower dosages if you are hypertensive. Each pill cost around $10 and was recorded to have sold more than $1 billion from 1999 to 2001. In 2007, Viagra's share of the target market dropped to 50% due to the entry of Cialis, Levitra and other clones of the medicine.

The Cialis sample pack contains 20 mg tablets and are also called the "weekend pill". Although it works the same way as Viagra, it is believed to have a longer half-life, thereby longer duration of the effect. It is also prescribed to people with pulmonary arterial hypertension as a once-daily therapy. At present, generic Cialis can be bought in a Cialis online pharmacy.

Why then the use of these drugs? Well, for one, erectile dysfunction is not just a man's issue but it affects couples and relationships. Erectile dysfunction medicines are not aphrodisiacs; they do not want you to have sex. Instead, it makes your body equipped to have sex. This means that you need to be in the mood for it. This is where romance and love comes in.

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Friday, May 9, 2008

Notes for Resolving Church quarrels

by MonishMone

The core of this development can be stated plainly as:

• Recognize the issue, the area of concern or conflict;
• Elucidate the goals or requirements of the various parties;
• Search for substitutes that facilitate all parties to accomplish as many of their goals as promising, and
• Convention to pursue, the chosen substitute.

Every individual has basic intrinsic needs. The commotion of one's life requests to fulfill this set of requirements. In order to accomplish these requirements, a person performs towards goals. Goals are conditions of being one that do not currently exist but that we can visualize as existing. In further words, goals are objectives toward which we express our actions. We are deliberate, goal-directed creatures, requesting the fulfillment of our requirements through the accomplishment of our goals, and we are beings who must chase our aims in social settings. With many demanding to inhabit the same legroom at the same time Clash results.

Most of the vast religions of the world assure a future pictured as a heavenly, passive conflict-free state. The church conceivably embodies most vibrantly this human craving to evade conflict. As an outcome, most churches widen norms rejecting behavior that persuades clash and rewarding deeds that tend to suppress it. There are individual goals, private goals for the organization, and the organization's goals. We always pick out the world from our point of observation, and we act on the foundation of it. Human conceit, self-glorification, and making individual perception absolute ultimately corrupt. The exaltation or reverence of our own views erects the barriers, fashions the separations, and intensifies the rift from God and others.

Mr.Monish is a Copywriter of Us churches He written many articles in various topics.For more information visit: Church directory contact him at rchurch.jesus@gmail.com.

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Thursday, May 8, 2008

Is There More to Tantra than Just Sex?

by Summerizer

Improving our life styles and making the best of our leisure is becoming an essential pursuit within modern society. The stressful life pace of today's day and age has naturally increased our need to find means of relaxation and pleasure. Hence, it is not a surprising fact that more and more people show interest in alternative practices such as yoga and meditation.

One of the more popular areas of interest in the past few years is Tantra- The ancient art of love making. Kerry & Diane Riley- Heads of the Australian school of Tantra, declare that their relatively new downloadable Tantra course (worth of no less than 177$) has already generated more than 200,000 unique sales for them, and this is just a sheer example.

So what draws people for Tantra in the first place?

Well, the first obvious answer that would immediately come into mind is- Sex, and for a very justified reason indeed. We hear from Tantric practitioners (including some of our very famous Celebs such as Tom Hanks, Sting and others) that Tantra has the power to upgrade almost any man into literally a Sex God- turning him into a multi orgasmic creature that can last for hours and hours on end. For women it is a way to expand their sexual magic and orgasmic potential into a whole new dimension.

But it's not only about sex…

Tantra has originated from ancient India, and is mentioned in the 'Vedic' (Hindu) scriptures as a spiritual practice for enlightenment. Tantra was traditionally a very meditative practice that used to be intertwined with yoga practice and mantra chants. It is therefore not surprising to hear from nowadays Tantric practitioners that Tantra serves them as a very relaxing and spiritually uplifting experience.

Furthermore, we are witnessing more and more success stories among couples who report a dramatic improvement in their intimacy as a result of Tantric practices. Sharon white, a marriage counselor and a Tantra expert testify that ever since she started implementing Tantra guidance within her counseling sessions, her success rate sky rocked from 65% to 90% among her patients. "As a Tantra practitioner for the past 20 years, I myself am surprised to acknowledge the extent to which Tantra has healed my patient's relationships. It is most definitely the relationship healer for the 21 century" she exclaims.

Tantra is being learned today in workshops and private courses, and Tantric massage has even become a very popular service offered by spas all over the world. Moreover, we were literally AMAZED by the number of daily searches for "Tantric massage" on the search engines- A whooping 2807 daily searches!

For people who want to discover and practice Tantra there are many courses available. A course for couples (usually a weekend with all the hosting facilities included) should cost anywhere around 400$-1000$ a person. There are much cheaper and no less effective means to learn Tantra though, such as the downloadable (book and audio) practical home course, given by two of the most world known Tantric teachers- Kerry & Diane Riley.

In their course you will discover step by step, and in a very professional and comprehensive way, how to become the ultimate Tantric lovers. Their course covers all of the Tantra aspects; from Tantric juicy positions through complete control over ejaculation (for men), balancing differences in libidos, Tantra massage, sexual meditation, and all the way into deepening the love and intimacy within your relationship and turning your sex into a sacred love making. The price of this instantly downloadable course is 177$, and it has been widely recognized over the internet as the best valued product for its price.

For more information feel free to visit Kerry & Diane 's site at: Tantra Home Course


Richard Summer

Richard Summer is a 33 years old professional writer, with a PhD in social work.

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Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Is it Cheating? Internet Flirtations, Affairs and Love Connections

by Arthor Pens

Donna was engaged to be married in two weeks. She was sitting at her fiancés computer, looking to find addresses to send early thank you notes when it happened. Donna "accidentally opened" the email that changed everything in an instant. "Tina, thanks for sending me those pics last night. They were even sexier then the ones you sent before. I'm sure I'll be thinking about you and those pictures tonight as I drift off to sleep with a smile on my face.. I'll call you tomorrow after work on my drive home."

Stunned, sickened and panicked, Donna confronted Todd over the phone while he was at work. He was home in fifteen minutes and in a marathon fight that last until midnight Todd denied having an affair. He said he'd met Tina online in a chat forum and had never even met her in person. He wasn't even sure Tina was her real name. Todd explained the stress associated with the upcoming wedding was killing him and he was just mindlessly browsing the web when he stumbled into this chat with his new online "friend". At first they talked about day to day stuff, even the wedding plans. But after a couple of weeks it turned flirtatious, and after a couple more, sexual. He urged Donna to read the emails so she would believe him. As painful as it was to read the sexually charged correspondence, Donna read far enough to believe they'd never met. However, although they decided not to call off the wedding, Donna moved into the spare room. Too humiliated to face it she told no one! Fifteen days later she walked down the isle, in white, all smiles. Fast forward nine months to today. Todd and Donna are in couples counseling. The outlook is shaky at best.

This leads us to the question that is facing more of today's couples than can possibly be estimated. Is an internet fling or flirting cheating?? My answer is simple, that answer is totally up to you. If you find out your mate has been heating up the internet with another woman and it bothers you, which I'm fairly sure it will, then yes, without a doubt, that's cheating. The idea of "finding out" itself, indicates that there was hiding of the truth involved in the first place. If your man knew you wouldn't dig it, so he hid it in the first place, then even he knew it was cheating – no matter what he says about how innocent it was. If you are one of the very small minority of women out there that would not be bothered by this behavior, who would shrug if off as "boys with a keyboard will be boys", then you wouldn't be asking this question in the first place.

Cheating used to be very black and white. However these days a lot of men would like to think the internet has created a million shades of grey. I beg to differ. I think cheating is still black and white. I think it's fairly easy to define as a behavior that creates feelings of emotional or sexual betrayal. I think men know when they are cheating, almost always confirmed by their hiding the behavior in question. Now, I know, women do bad things too. However, statistically men are much more likely to engage in "internet affairs". Not to mention many real world physical affairs start online and men who engage in questionable online behavior are vastly more likely to have a "real" affair.

So, in the end, only you know the answer. Is it cheating? Ask yourself one thing, "does it feel OK to me?" If the answer to that question is no, then your answer is, yes, he is cheating. Don't cut him any slack on interpretation of the rules. Trust me, in his heart of hearts, he knows it's cheating too.

The Author is the creator of How To Escape From Relationship Hell. She is a mother of two, yoga instructor, hypnotherapist, and internet project manager. She likes long walks on the beach and naps. You can contact her at http://www.escapefromrelationshiphell.com

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