Thursday, May 29, 2008

5 Signs You're Ready to Start Dating Again

by Trisha Stone

1. Can't Get Him Out of Your Head

Is it driving you mad? You are still waking up in the morning and your first thought is "him". Even in the middle of the night you are lying away he is the only thing you think about. You can't get to sleep for turning everything that has happened in the relationship endlessly around in your head.

You start to notice that when you wake in the morning you are thinking about other things in your life than "him"! In fact, you are realising that you are quite enjoying your life at the moment. Finding time to be with your friends. Beginning to think about your career again and what you can do to get to the next stage. A friend has suggested going on a trip together and you are excited by the idea of trying something new.

Dating Readiness Sign #1: When you are no longer fixated on your life with your ex. and your thoughts are changing you know that life is moving on for you. Getting over a relationship takes time but slowly you will begin to feel better about everying. This is not a place of denial but about coming to terms with the fact that life is taking a different path.

2. You Are No Longer Angry

Whether you wanted to end the relationship or not it is often the case that you will go through a period of anger or bitterness. Sometimes the anger is outward facing - it is all about "him". He this, he that, he.... Sometimes you turn the anger and bitterness inwards. In this state you start to question what you have done, what you could have done etc. You hear yourself repeating lots of negative messages to yourself and a lot of self-blame goes on.

Dating Readiness Sign #2: Now you recognise the good and bad parts about the relationship and about your own contribution. This is a time when you have learnt to take responsibility for what has happened, even if it was he who wanted to end the relationship. Suddenly you find yourself simply fed up with thinking this way about "him" or about men in general. You do really like them, after all, and realise that this last relationship just didn't work for you.

3. You Are No Longer Hoping

However much you try not to, you have found yourself fantasising about him that he will realise that he has made a mistake and will come back to you. This is very common - to believe that if you keep "hoping" everything will come right with you it will. This becomes very dangerous when it takes up too much of your headspace and you can't think about anything else. As long as you hold on to that "hope" you will not move forward.

Dating Readiness Sign #3: When you no longer spend your time "hoping" that things could be different. When you are no longer fixated by the ex-relationship. When you notice that you have spent a whole day, a weekend, and not thought about "him" because you were having too much fun, then you know you are ready to date again.

4. You Take Responsibility

It is so easy to blame others, the world, the other woman, or anything when things go wrong in our lives. Sometimes there may be factors outside your control that have hindered your past relationships. Do you find yourself always believing that it was something to do with someone else that caused the break-up? There are always two people in a relationship and each person has to recognise their own responsibility.

Dating Readiness Sign #4: Being prepared to accept your part in the relationship is a big step. Whatever has happened something of what you did, even if it was just choosing the wrong person for you in the first place, is your responsibility. When you have got to where you can be thoughtful and honest with yourself you know that you are ready to date again.

5. Guess What? You're Happy

Suddenly life feels better. You are going out doing new things, meeting new people. Even better - when you are alone you find that you are enjoying your own company. What's more you have much more energy. You have a spring in your step and a let's get on with it attitude to your life.

Dating Readiness Sign #5: However long it takes there will be a time when you find that you are happy again. This will not be an overnight occurrence, but will grow slowly over time, and this may depend on how long you were in the past relationship.

Losing a relationship that has been meaningful to you is a kind of bereavement and you have to move through the same kind of stages. When you have recognised all the dating readiness signs then it is time to go out there again. Don't be tempted to do this before you are ready, because all you will do is take some of the old stuff with you. Allow yourself as much time as you need - it really isn't a race! Better to be in good balance so that your next relationship has a really good chance to be the right one for you. Good luck.

Trisha Stone, relationship coach, knows that what single women over 30 want is a loving long-term relationship. To get immediate access to 3 FREE recordings of relationship teleclasses with Trisha by clicking here

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

Evian Conference

by Dr. D.S. Merchant

Imam Sultan Muhammad Shah had called a Conference in Evian, France known as the Evian Conference between July 4, 1952 and July 8, 1952 to discuss various economic and social problems confronting the African Ismailis and also to make necessary amendments in the Constitution of the African Councils. It was attended by 40 members including the President and the Secretary of the Supreme Council, the Presidents of the Provincial Councils and of the Ismailia Association, educational administrators, the managing director of the Jubilee Insurance Company, and three members of the East African Legislative Council.

The health of the Imam was impaired and confined to bed. Even in this state of health, he spared five complete days to hear the verbal and written reports and had a total sitting of 18 hours with the delegates. One of the major decisions reached at the Conference urged all Ismaili women of East Africa to adopt western dress for political and economic reasons. At the end of the Conference, the Imam sent following cable message:-

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Very glad to hear various excellent resolutions Evian Conference carried out in spirit and letter. All those who help receive double blessings. Very glad ladies intend when new clothes ordered have western fashion economic material clothes made as Burma for all unity with new western African ideals. For economic reasons old-fashioned clothes should be worn till used up by time and age when new clothes ordered new fashion should become general

Soon after the Conference, the wives of the leaders responded thereby setting an example for the rest of the community. The Ismailia Association arranged lectures by missionaries in the Jamatkhana to encourage women to adopt western dress. This particular guidance is a good illustration of the Imam's reasoning in urging change on his people. He saw that adopting western dress would make it easier for Ismailis to be identified with and assimilated into the indigenous population. Various changes were also brought about in the school curriculum. Gujrati was gradually replaced by English as the medium of instruction. It was decided to introduce French as the second language. Emphasis was also placed on the teaching of commercial subjects for boys and domestic science for girls. Changes were made also to help Ismailis obtain higher education. The Gold Grant Committee of 1937 was taken over by the Central Committee in 1946 with a fund of $. 44,860 and an annual grant of $. 13,458 from the Imam. The grant was later raised to $. 157,000. Because of limited communal resources, it was decided after the Evian Conference that bursaries would be granted for those professions only of direct benefit to the community. Further, changes in the distribution of education at a time when education became more important for material success gave rise to new interest groups. Economic power was no longer associated only with business but also with the professions. A corollary effect of increased educational opportunity was the changing role of women, which in turn had its effect on the family. Unlike other Muslim women, the Ismaili women were no longer limited to the traditional role of housewife. But the main effect of educational opportunity on the woman's changing role was to open a broader range of career possibilities. The change in the role of women, then, was more in terms of a climate of opinion which allowed them increasing latitude and independence.

Clearly, the Imam's own willingness to accept new ideas, his skill in translating them into guidance and in channeling them through the councils, while communicating with his people at large, were important forces in creating change while perpetuating continuity. Imam Sultan Muhammad Shah lived at a time when vast changes were occurring, and he realized that the success of his followers depended on their capacity for accommodating to these changes while maintaining their cultural identity. The Imam also said, "Ismailism has survived because it has always been fluid. Rigidity is contrary to our whole life and outlook" (Memoirs of Aga Khan, p. 185).

Mumtaz Ali Tajddin S. Ali is an popular Ismaili Scholar, Written many books on Islam and Ismailism, Evian Conference is taken from Encyclopedia of Ismailism, also read 101 Ismaili Heroes



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Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Was An Addictive Relationship What You Really Wanted?

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An addictive relationship is not a pleasent thing to deal with, though millions of people are in bad relationships that are no good for them. Unhealthy relationships lead to abuse, drug use, depression, and to people's lives being in a very negative place. Addictive relationships can be hard to define, and therefore it can be hard to tell if you are in one. However, a bad relationship is something to take seriously, and if you can figure out that you are in one, you are one step closer to getting out of it so that you can get into a good relationship.

An addictive relationship tends to isolate either or both partners from the outdide world. It is identical to drug or alcohol dependence. It is something that keeps them apart from the things they really love and tasks they should be accomplishing. An addictive relationship is truly a dysfunctional relationship because it is defined by an increasing craving to be with a person, and by withdrawal symptoms that go along with being away from them. It also has the some of the same signs as other addictions, such as low self-esteem, passivity, magical thinking, lack of initiative, and helplessness.

There are seven things that you can see in an addictive relationship. If you find that your relationship has these things or any number of them, chances are good that you are in a bad relationship, and should consider getting out of it.

1. If you feel that you are magnetically drawn to another person, even if the person is not good for you, it might be a dysfunctional relationship. This might include a person that is too far away, married, not interested, or emotionally unavailable. If these things are true about your partner, yet you feel like you are drawn to them, it could be an addictive relationship.

2. If changing the other person to want you want them to be is your goal, you are in a losing situation. People will not change just because you hound them. If you find yourself constantly thinking that the relationship would be perfect if the person could just change a little bit, it is a sign of a bad relationship.

3. KNowing the realtionship is bad for you, and you are not able to get out of it is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. you may not feel deserving of a positive relationship, perhaps you are so worried about the others reaction to a break up you lose sight of your own needs. no matter what, these are the signs of a bad relationship.

4. If you notice the realtioships of other happy people seem boring compared to yours, it may be a sign you are hooked on the chaos of an addictive relationship. There is a big probability that you would spurn these people to stay in your current relationship.

5. If you don't feel that you can be independent within your relationship, even though you might be independent in other areas, it might be a sign of an addictive relationship.

6. If it is hard to say 'no' and stick to it and you find yourself always giving in to your partners needs, this is another sign.

7. If your relationship makes you feel self-doubt, it is a sign that your relationship is dysfunctional.

If you find that you are in an addictive relationship, the best thing to do is to get out of the relationship. However, seek help from family and friends, and even professionals, so that you can avoid going back to the person, and so that you can learn how to appreciate yourself long enough to find a successful and good relationship.

Addictive relationships are no fun, but sometimes a fact of life. Are your life relationships not going well? The good news is at least you are looking for some information and help on healing those dysfunctional relationships. Visit: http://AddictionRecoveryBasics.com

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Monday, May 12, 2008

Getting the best out of one night

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Sex education may be widely accepted but one topic rarely discussed is erectile dysfunction also known as male impotence. This is basically the inability of a man to sustain or develop an erection. The most common known causes of male impotence are physiological and psychological. Physiologically, it is related to poor physical health, obesity, cardiovascular diseases and poor eating habits. Psychological impotence happens when a man fails to express his thoughts and feelings.

The earliest record known of erectile dysfunction can be traced back to Muslims in the medieval Islamic world. Folk cures have been in use for sometime but it was only in the 1920s and 1930s that a medical cure was advocated for impotence. This was initiated by Dr. John R. Brinkley through his radio programs which were aired in Kansas those days. In the 1970s, the use of penile implants made its way in the medical field as doctors started prescribing its use. The advance in erectile dysfunction medication came with phentolamine as demonstrated by the British psychologist Giles Brindley.

Sex is no longer a taboo. Yes, I know you know that but while it this is true in the United States, other nationalities have trouble discussing it. This is probably the reason why some people find it difficult to buy condoms and contraceptive pills in pharmacies, imagine how people would have the courage to buy Viagra – one of the most popular brand names of medication for male impotence. This is also the reason why more people opt to buy generic Viagra online.

It was also found that brand generic Viagra, when bought from a Viagra online pharmacy is a lot cheaper than those bought from the local pharmacy. However, those needing this medicine need to contact their doctors as it is sold in different dosages, and you might need to take the lower dosages if you are hypertensive. Each pill cost around $10 and was recorded to have sold more than $1 billion from 1999 to 2001. In 2007, Viagra's share of the target market dropped to 50% due to the entry of Cialis, Levitra and other clones of the medicine.

The Cialis sample pack contains 20 mg tablets and are also called the "weekend pill". Although it works the same way as Viagra, it is believed to have a longer half-life, thereby longer duration of the effect. It is also prescribed to people with pulmonary arterial hypertension as a once-daily therapy. At present, generic Cialis can be bought in a Cialis online pharmacy.

Why then the use of these drugs? Well, for one, erectile dysfunction is not just a man's issue but it affects couples and relationships. Erectile dysfunction medicines are not aphrodisiacs; they do not want you to have sex. Instead, it makes your body equipped to have sex. This means that you need to be in the mood for it. This is where romance and love comes in.

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Friday, May 9, 2008

Notes for Resolving Church quarrels

by MonishMone

The core of this development can be stated plainly as:

• Recognize the issue, the area of concern or conflict;
• Elucidate the goals or requirements of the various parties;
• Search for substitutes that facilitate all parties to accomplish as many of their goals as promising, and
• Convention to pursue, the chosen substitute.

Every individual has basic intrinsic needs. The commotion of one's life requests to fulfill this set of requirements. In order to accomplish these requirements, a person performs towards goals. Goals are conditions of being one that do not currently exist but that we can visualize as existing. In further words, goals are objectives toward which we express our actions. We are deliberate, goal-directed creatures, requesting the fulfillment of our requirements through the accomplishment of our goals, and we are beings who must chase our aims in social settings. With many demanding to inhabit the same legroom at the same time Clash results.

Most of the vast religions of the world assure a future pictured as a heavenly, passive conflict-free state. The church conceivably embodies most vibrantly this human craving to evade conflict. As an outcome, most churches widen norms rejecting behavior that persuades clash and rewarding deeds that tend to suppress it. There are individual goals, private goals for the organization, and the organization's goals. We always pick out the world from our point of observation, and we act on the foundation of it. Human conceit, self-glorification, and making individual perception absolute ultimately corrupt. The exaltation or reverence of our own views erects the barriers, fashions the separations, and intensifies the rift from God and others.

Mr.Monish is a Copywriter of Us churches He written many articles in various topics.For more information visit: Church directory contact him at rchurch.jesus@gmail.com.

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Thursday, May 8, 2008

Is There More to Tantra than Just Sex?

by Summerizer

Improving our life styles and making the best of our leisure is becoming an essential pursuit within modern society. The stressful life pace of today's day and age has naturally increased our need to find means of relaxation and pleasure. Hence, it is not a surprising fact that more and more people show interest in alternative practices such as yoga and meditation.

One of the more popular areas of interest in the past few years is Tantra- The ancient art of love making. Kerry & Diane Riley- Heads of the Australian school of Tantra, declare that their relatively new downloadable Tantra course (worth of no less than 177$) has already generated more than 200,000 unique sales for them, and this is just a sheer example.

So what draws people for Tantra in the first place?

Well, the first obvious answer that would immediately come into mind is- Sex, and for a very justified reason indeed. We hear from Tantric practitioners (including some of our very famous Celebs such as Tom Hanks, Sting and others) that Tantra has the power to upgrade almost any man into literally a Sex God- turning him into a multi orgasmic creature that can last for hours and hours on end. For women it is a way to expand their sexual magic and orgasmic potential into a whole new dimension.

But it's not only about sex…

Tantra has originated from ancient India, and is mentioned in the 'Vedic' (Hindu) scriptures as a spiritual practice for enlightenment. Tantra was traditionally a very meditative practice that used to be intertwined with yoga practice and mantra chants. It is therefore not surprising to hear from nowadays Tantric practitioners that Tantra serves them as a very relaxing and spiritually uplifting experience.

Furthermore, we are witnessing more and more success stories among couples who report a dramatic improvement in their intimacy as a result of Tantric practices. Sharon white, a marriage counselor and a Tantra expert testify that ever since she started implementing Tantra guidance within her counseling sessions, her success rate sky rocked from 65% to 90% among her patients. "As a Tantra practitioner for the past 20 years, I myself am surprised to acknowledge the extent to which Tantra has healed my patient's relationships. It is most definitely the relationship healer for the 21 century" she exclaims.

Tantra is being learned today in workshops and private courses, and Tantric massage has even become a very popular service offered by spas all over the world. Moreover, we were literally AMAZED by the number of daily searches for "Tantric massage" on the search engines- A whooping 2807 daily searches!

For people who want to discover and practice Tantra there are many courses available. A course for couples (usually a weekend with all the hosting facilities included) should cost anywhere around 400$-1000$ a person. There are much cheaper and no less effective means to learn Tantra though, such as the downloadable (book and audio) practical home course, given by two of the most world known Tantric teachers- Kerry & Diane Riley.

In their course you will discover step by step, and in a very professional and comprehensive way, how to become the ultimate Tantric lovers. Their course covers all of the Tantra aspects; from Tantric juicy positions through complete control over ejaculation (for men), balancing differences in libidos, Tantra massage, sexual meditation, and all the way into deepening the love and intimacy within your relationship and turning your sex into a sacred love making. The price of this instantly downloadable course is 177$, and it has been widely recognized over the internet as the best valued product for its price.

For more information feel free to visit Kerry & Diane 's site at: Tantra Home Course


Richard Summer

Richard Summer is a 33 years old professional writer, with a PhD in social work.

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Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Is it Cheating? Internet Flirtations, Affairs and Love Connections

by Arthor Pens

Donna was engaged to be married in two weeks. She was sitting at her fiancés computer, looking to find addresses to send early thank you notes when it happened. Donna "accidentally opened" the email that changed everything in an instant. "Tina, thanks for sending me those pics last night. They were even sexier then the ones you sent before. I'm sure I'll be thinking about you and those pictures tonight as I drift off to sleep with a smile on my face.. I'll call you tomorrow after work on my drive home."

Stunned, sickened and panicked, Donna confronted Todd over the phone while he was at work. He was home in fifteen minutes and in a marathon fight that last until midnight Todd denied having an affair. He said he'd met Tina online in a chat forum and had never even met her in person. He wasn't even sure Tina was her real name. Todd explained the stress associated with the upcoming wedding was killing him and he was just mindlessly browsing the web when he stumbled into this chat with his new online "friend". At first they talked about day to day stuff, even the wedding plans. But after a couple of weeks it turned flirtatious, and after a couple more, sexual. He urged Donna to read the emails so she would believe him. As painful as it was to read the sexually charged correspondence, Donna read far enough to believe they'd never met. However, although they decided not to call off the wedding, Donna moved into the spare room. Too humiliated to face it she told no one! Fifteen days later she walked down the isle, in white, all smiles. Fast forward nine months to today. Todd and Donna are in couples counseling. The outlook is shaky at best.

This leads us to the question that is facing more of today's couples than can possibly be estimated. Is an internet fling or flirting cheating?? My answer is simple, that answer is totally up to you. If you find out your mate has been heating up the internet with another woman and it bothers you, which I'm fairly sure it will, then yes, without a doubt, that's cheating. The idea of "finding out" itself, indicates that there was hiding of the truth involved in the first place. If your man knew you wouldn't dig it, so he hid it in the first place, then even he knew it was cheating – no matter what he says about how innocent it was. If you are one of the very small minority of women out there that would not be bothered by this behavior, who would shrug if off as "boys with a keyboard will be boys", then you wouldn't be asking this question in the first place.

Cheating used to be very black and white. However these days a lot of men would like to think the internet has created a million shades of grey. I beg to differ. I think cheating is still black and white. I think it's fairly easy to define as a behavior that creates feelings of emotional or sexual betrayal. I think men know when they are cheating, almost always confirmed by their hiding the behavior in question. Now, I know, women do bad things too. However, statistically men are much more likely to engage in "internet affairs". Not to mention many real world physical affairs start online and men who engage in questionable online behavior are vastly more likely to have a "real" affair.

So, in the end, only you know the answer. Is it cheating? Ask yourself one thing, "does it feel OK to me?" If the answer to that question is no, then your answer is, yes, he is cheating. Don't cut him any slack on interpretation of the rules. Trust me, in his heart of hearts, he knows it's cheating too.

The Author is the creator of How To Escape From Relationship Hell. She is a mother of two, yoga instructor, hypnotherapist, and internet project manager. She likes long walks on the beach and naps. You can contact her at http://www.escapefromrelationshiphell.com

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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Choosing Unique Wedding Favor

by Jesicca Aloe

Wedding favor is a small gift given as gesture of appreciation to wedding guest from the bride and groom. Giving a wedding favor to wedding guest is a tradition in such country. You need the perfect favors for your perfect wedding, because it is your personal thanks statement to your guest for coming.

Wedding favor can create an experience for your guest long after your wedding is over. Unique favors are more than just a souvenir. This favor is their memory about your wedding. So, it is needed to choose the unique and special wedding favor for you guest.

There are many type of wedding favors, like garden wedding favors, Asian favors, beach favors, and other famous type favors. Some favors include a unique and personalized idea, like pens, boxes, candles, vases, or cameras.

Choosing the right favor sometimes is difficult and sometimes is easy. Before you decide what favor you'll buy, you can go to some wedding favor online stores. There are many online stores available in internet. You can visit their website and looking around their favors. Order some examples before you decide to bulk buy the favors. Check whether the favor ordered is good enough.

It is better that you choose a functional favor. You must expect that your favor will be useful for guests. Giving unuseful favor can make your favor goes to trash bin. Give the guest with personalized and useful favor, like camera, candle, pen, or other useful things.

Don't spend too much. Although the favor is your personal statement, but don't spend too much. Some favors cost less than five dollar, others can cost above ten dollars. Choose a favor that fit with your pocket. Save some money for other wedding expenses. Keep find a low cost and unique wedding favor.

Buy at the right amount. After you decide to bulk buy the favors, buy with right amount. You need to estimate the guest number. Don't buy too much. Don't buy too little. Approximate the guest will attend to your wedding and have some extra favors.

Match the season. Yes, match with the season when your wedding ceremony will happen. If your wedding will happen at winter, you can choose winter favor. If your wedding ceremony will happen at summer, you can buy summer theme favors.

Make your own. If you don't satisfy with available favor, you can make your own favor. You can design your own favor and order it to the wedding favor provider. Or you can make by yourself. Look at your own talent. When designing the favor reflect your personality. By making your own favor, you can make a very unique favor.

If you want a cheap, fast, and personalized favor, you can make your own CD favor. You can record your favorite songs and burn it to CD. Create unique cover and label for the CD. Tie it with beautiful ribbon.

So think what favor is fit for you. Choose the favor that reflect your personality, and buy at online stores, or you can make your own favor.

Jessica is the owner of unique wedding favors website and midi keyboard

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Friday, May 2, 2008

Donation

by Dr. D.S. Merchant

The English word donation is borrowed from the Latin, donaire means present. It is an action or faculty of giving or presenting. It includes presentation, grant, bestowal or gift. The tradition of donation goes back to the Islamic period. The Koranic message specifies to participate in the cause of God by giving money. The word infaq means to spending benevolently, occurring seven times in the Koran (2:195, 261, 262, 8:60, 9:34, 47:38, 57:10), such as: "The parable of those who spend their wealth in the way of God is as the parable of a grain growing seven ears with a hundred grains in every ear; and God multiplies it for whom He pleases" (2:261), and "And the parable of those who spend their wealth to seek the pleasure of God and for the certainty of their souls is as the parable of a garden on an elevated ground" (2:265).

Qurtubi (d. 671/1272) writes in al-Ta'rif fil Ansab (Cairo, 1987, p. 252) that a Syrian merchant, called Tamim al-Dhari (d. 40/660) brought a lamp (kandil) with oil and wick from his native Syria to Medina and donated for the mosque. His lighting of a lamp in the mosque was an important social event, which was not only approved but also recommended by the Prophet who, gave him a nickname of Siraj (lamp). Waqidi (p. 410) writes that Abu Lubaba was one of the most influential men in Medina, who was wealthy enough to donate a balcony to the Masjid al-Dirar. Zainab did some manual labour and tanned hide and skin and this hard-earned money she spent in the way of God (al-Isabah, 4:314). Another report indicates that Zainab would spin yarns and gave them to the people participating in jihad with the Prophet to use it for sewing their torn clothes (Sa'id al-Haithmi, 8:289). Ala'a bin Hadrami once sent a sum of eighty thousand dhirams to the Prophet, which was never given such a large amount before or after that (al-Hakim, 3:329). Al-Haythmi (9:384) writes that Hakim bin Hazm sold his house to Muawiya for sixty thousand dhirams. The people said, "By God! Muawiya had usurped property." He replied, "I have taken the house in exchange for one water-skinful during the days of ignorance, and now I donate it in the way of God for freeing the slaves and helping the paupers, and now tell me who has suffered the loss."

The Prophet once appealed the Muslims to make their inclination towards the jihad and pay their donation. Ibn Abbas and Talha bin Ubaidah brought sufficient wealth to the Prophet. Abdur Rahman bin Awf gave two hundred oqiyahs silver (one oqiyah was equal to the weight of 40 dhirams, and one dhiram was equal to about 3.07 grams). Asim bin Adi donated 90 wasqs of dates (90 wasqs weighed more than 4 quintals). Umm Sinan relates that she saw a cloth spread on which was collected the bangles of ivory and horns, foot-wears, ornaments, rings etc., which were donated by the women (Ibn Asakir, 1:110).

According to al-Targhib (1:53), Jarir narrates, "One day, we had been at the service of the Prophet. In the meantime, some people from Mudir tribe appeared in bare-bodies and bare-footed, putting on state-like cross belt of the stripped sheet or a cloak. The face of the Prophet changed to see them starving. He entered his house and came out and asked Bilal to call azan. The Prophet led the prayer, then delivered a speech before recitation of the Koranic verse: "O ye who believe! Fear God and let every soul look to what (provision) he has sent for the morrow. You fear God, for God is well-acquainted with all that you do." The Prophet also said, "Man should offer dinar, dhiram, clothes, wheat and dates, no matter it be a piece of date" (59:18). Having heard this one person turned up with a heavy pursed followed by others carrying various articles one after another and also raised two separate heaps of grains and clothes. Having observed the spirit of the donors, the face of the Prophet got brightened. Then, he said, "Anyone who innovates something good in Islam, will get its reward for his desirable innovation added by the reward equal to those who would be practising his fine innovation, without bringing about any curtailment in the reward of those following his way." Ibn Abbas relates that once the Prophet after offering the Eid prayer and delivering the sermon, went to the women and imparted them. He asked to donate for the poor. Ibn Abbas also relates that he saw the women reaching out their hands to their ears and necks to take off earrings and necklaces and throwing them towards Bilal.

Mumtaz Ali Tajddin S. Ali is an popular Ismaili Scholar, He has written many articles on Ismaili Imam, Ismailism, and Donation in Encyclopedia of Ismailism, must read 101 Ismaili Heroes etc.



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