To People Who Want To Attract Women Online -- But Can't Get Started

by Leon Casey

You Deserve To Attract Women Online!

So you're new to online dating and don't know where to begin? Or you already tried to put an ad without much success?

Then the following practical tips are for you.

Before moving on with writing or responding to online personals, the very first thing you have to do or rather to be is to be clear with your goal. Are you looking for a "serious" relationship or are you looking to have some fun?

Let's begin with responding to online personals. Then I'll share my formula for success for writing your own personals. I believe you'll be able to write great ads once you become familiar with the "responding" aspect of the game.

Responding to online personals

A good way to start is to wonder what is the average guy doing. Well typically the average dude is qualifying himself. He tries to address every single trait that's mentioned in the ad. In other words, he's trying to please women, which is the cardinal sin in the area of dating.

What women tell or write is not what they really want. What are they really looking for? For them, ads are just a bait, a bait whose purpose is to catch the alpha male – even though they sometimes use an old noun, prince.

So what you want to do is display your alpha traits.

How?

Challenge women. Make fun of what they wrote in their ad. State that you have an exact opposite trait to what they desire. At best it will intrigue and amuse them, worst case they will be offended and so you know you won't lose your time with a stuck up lady.

Call them funny names: princess, dweeb, dude, sexual predator…

Play it light. Most guys take themselves too seriously. You're not applying for a job with Pricewaterhouse!

Lead the interaction. Sure the woman gave you a bait by putting on an ad. Your role as a man is then to take the lead of the next steps. Tell her what you're going to do together on your date.

Don't be stuck up with your own grammar while making fun of her syntaxic errors.

Be curious about her but not too much in a business like manner. Rather ask engaging and light questions such as "if you were a toon character, who would you be?"

Try to guess what kind of woman you're dealing with by what she writes in her ad. You don't want to get stuck with a psycho. You can even ask her directly.

Online dating sites encourage you to give as many information about you as possible. Sure you don't want to just check "male/single" but you don't want to reveal too much about you either. As Swinggcat likes to say, give women the chance to want to reach for more of you.

How To Write Successful Online Personal Ads Starting From Scratch

Let's begin with some basics.

I tend to quote dating specialist Tiffany Taylor a lot but I believe she has some really valuable insights:
"Whatever your goal, state it clearly in your personal profile and the chances of you finding it will increase tenfold. Also, when creating your profile, keep in mind that those with pictures are 8 times more likely to generate responses than those without. This doesn't mean you have to be a Brad Pitt to get the girls but showing your picture is a sign of self acceptance and confidence."

When stating your goal, do some testing. You can write for example "blonde only", this will challenge the brunettes and vice versa. Also, you want to make sure that the women you're targeting are located in your area. You don't want to travel a thousand miles just to go on a date. That's supplication.

Also, be sure to take a positive approach to creating your profile. Instead of telling everyone what you don't want in a woman, tell them what it is you're looking for. The more specific the better. What you focus on expands and what you don't want you keep attracting isn't it?

Still those are the basics and even with a clear stated goal and a picture, you'll stay one among the many.

Let's move into the heart of the subject.

Your first - dare I say the only? - objective is to induce women to answer to your ad.

How?

Enter the concept of positive differentiation.

If you're trained in business or entrepreneurship, you'll anticipate what I'm about to reveal.

The principle is easy to understand, but very few actually apply it. Just take a look at other personals!

Simply, what you want is to stand out from the crowd.

In the business world, we talk about unique selling proposition: what is your proposition. What makes it unique?

I also added the term positive – some dudes indeed distinguish themselves by acting like psycho.

So before going any further, you want to answer this question: What makes you positively unique?

Only you can answer this question. So you might want to invest some time doing some introspection. That's really what's going to do the difference.

Finally - and this is valid for both writing and responding to personals - do not try to portray a character. It will backward on you once you're on a date if you cannot live up to the virtual persona you created.

And remember! An answer is not the end of the game but rather a transition. You want to go on the phone asap and then arrange a date.

Personal ads – both online and off by the way – are a never-ending dating pool of prospects, so be honest to find the best match possible! Use them for practice – or to find true love.

Copyright 2008 Astoundingdatingtips.com; All Rights Reserved.

Leon Casey, The setter of Astoundingdatingtips.com - See the need to educate to public in the area of dating as he finds that most people do not know how to date. And the worse, many were educated the wrong way by their parents, movies, stories and fantasy. Therefore he setup astoundingdatingtips.com in which he recommend useful books, online personals and regularly updated dating advice. He is optimism that the website will certainly help the community in way or another.

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Setting a Budget for your Wedding

by SugSpc

I've already started planning my wedding about a month ago. I started with a budget. How much can I afford to spend? If you are lucky maybe a family member will help you with costs. For me, this is my second wedding so my fiancee and I are paying for pretty much the whole thing. This has it's benefits since we both decide what we want. If you have your mother or mother-in-law paying for the wedding you might get stuck with what they like.

Once you have an idea of how many people you want to invite you are ready to set a budget. I wanted to keep my budget to around $4,000.00 or less. I'm sure your thinking, wow that's a lot of money! For a wedding that's a drop in the bucket! You will be amazed at how much things can add up to a $10,000.00 wedding or more.

Setting up a budget can be easy. I used the website The Knot.com. They have a budget tracker that is easy to follow and free to set up. They give you the basic items that will add up in your wedding such as; rings, cake, caterers, photographers, wedding gown, bridesmaid gowns etc. You can use other websites that offer the same budget tracker or just use excel spreadsheet. What ever way is easier for you to keep costs down and know what your spending.

Once you have an idea of what you want for your wedding figure out ways to cut costs. Do you know anyone who could cater your wedding? Take photographs? Bake you a cake? Your friends and family is a good way to find out what kind of skills or careers they have. For my wedding I have a friend who is a sous chef that will cater my cocktail type reception and another who does photography on the side. Think about what's important and what's not. If having a reception at a fancy hotel vs. having the reception at your local park is more important then you may need to think about readjusting your budget and cut back on other areas.

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Kama Sutra Positions - – The Best 4 Positions for Simultaneous Orgasms

by kelly Price

Although written over 1,500 years ago, the message in the Kama Sutra is as current today as it was then. Unknown to many, the Kama Sutra is not a sex manual, but a life manual. We have selected 4 of the positions most likely to cause simultaneous orgasms between the lovers.

Follow the instructions carefully, and new and exquisite pleasures are bound to come to you. The names have been adapted to our modern lifestyles, but the positions described at all original Kama Sutra poses for mutual satisfaction.
Position #1 – Impaled!

This is a position where the woman does all the work, and is most relaxing for a man that has had vigorous sex before hand, and has regained his sexual appetite.

In this position, the man basically sits up on the bed, and does nothing. This is where the woman must be in charge.

While the man is sitting up, the woman will mount him astride his open legs, so the couple are facing each other, but the man's mouth is at the woman's breasts (which he must begin to nibble).

The woman will guide the man's firm and erect penis into her vagina, and to the depth she feels most comfortable with. Meanwhile the woman starts her movements (a bump and grind is very appropriate), and the man can still fondle her breasts, or grab the woman from the buttocks, pressing the pushing to make the penetration deeper.

The woman should alternate her movements, from bump and grind to hard pressed (vulva to the base of the man's penis) and swiveling her hips. In case the man wishes to orgasm first (or too soon), all the woman has to do is stop moving. Soon a mutual orgasm will arrive (as she restarts her movements).

Position #2 – Stopping Up the Doorway

Here is a face to face position, where also the hands of the lovers are free to caress each other while the man is penetrating deeply, stimulating not only the woman's clitoris but also her g-spot.

With the woman lying on her back, the man (from on top) grabs the woman's legs and makes them to rest on his shoulders. The woman will help guide his penis into her vagina, but also, without guidance, the penis can easily enter the vagina or anus should that be desirable. The man is prone but resting on his knees.

The woman is completely filled up by the man, and the two lovers are toughing and pressing hard at her vulva and his penis root. Although the man is thrusting, the woman can repel and counter-thrust each time. The woman might herself grab the man's buttocks, and pull him even closer and if thrusting, make each thrust more forceful.

The couple soon arrives to mutual orgasm and as the man's penis it set to the opening of the uterus; his sperm are ejaculated directly in the best place for conception.


Position #3 – The Stack

In this position, the man must do all the work, but what a pleasant work it is. With the woman lying down on the bed, in prone position (on her stomach) width legs spread apart.

The man will work to get the vagina wet, either by oral caress, manual stimulation, or with the use of a lubricant. When the vulva has opened, the man lies on top of the woman, and as he enters her vagina with his erect penis, the woman will slowly close her legs. The penis is trapped now in her vagina, and the man is free to caress the woman to whatever part of her body his hands can reach.

While the man is thrusting, the woman can begin contraction of her kegels to enhance the sexual experience for the man, and also for herself as this creates added friction during the man's thrusting.

Position #4 – V for Victory!

The V position is unequalled for the dominant man seeking full surrender from the woman. While the woman lays down on her back, the man approaches and squats in front of the woman, and opens and holds her legs (from the ankles) wide apart to form a V. The woman is fully exposed, completely open, and the man then enters her vagina with a slight forceful movement.

Now the man can thrust and rummage the woman to his heart's content, with full strokes or partial, but always in a rhythmical manner.

It is often useful for the man to withdraw completely, and re-enter in the same forceful manner as the first penetration. At this juncture, the man should press home till orgasm, depositing her sperm directly at the uterus entrance. The woman can easily swoon from such a pleasure as she may have never received before.

Try the above Kama Sutra positions and you will find them as effective and enjoyable as they were over 1,500 years ago.

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Unusual Forms of Psychic Reading

by Jordan Matthews

There are many forms of divination when it comes to psychic reading. Tarot and Runes are quite popular. There are also other forms of divination that is rarely used, but will work as well.

1. Casting Stones: Not many people use casting stones. This is the method of using crystals and gemstones for divination. There are different ways to use casting stones and each psychic reader will need to find what suits them best.

Casting stones are a group of crystals and gemstones which are thrown onto a flat surface and read by the psychic. These stones can be found in a kit, with a drawstring bag to store them and. Most who use the stones like to choose each stone by hand so they can get a feeling from each stone, as to vibration. When the stone feels right, they know it is one of the stones they want in their kit.

It is best to use smaller stones, but not tiny, as they would be easy to lose. They should also have one flat side.

You will want to choose the stones with their magical associations in mind. Tiger Eye is an yellow/orange stone that is associated with light, clarity, warmth, heat, daylight, the Sun, etc....This stone could also be associated with the night, vision, and cats. This all depends on the question that has been asked, or what the subconscious of the reader leads them to. Amethyst, as with all purple stones, is usually associated with psychic vision, and spirituality. If you are a beginner you will need to purchase one of the number of books available on the subject.

The stones can be cast in different ways. Some psychic readers choose to make a cloth to throw the stones on. Many times a circle is drawn on the cloth which is divided into four equal parts. Each of the four parts of the circle are represented by a direction: Air-East, Fire-South, Water-West, and Earth-North. Air has to do with the mind and the color yellow, Fire is connected with energy and action and the color red, Water is associated with emotion, psychic abilities and purple and blue stones, Earth is the more practical and tangible, and connects with earthy tones.

2. Crystal Balls and Crystals: Crystals are used in the same way that casting stones are. Contrary to the fortune tellers in old movies, the Crystal Ball does not open as a window to show scenes of what is happening, or what is to come. The Crystal Ball is used as a focal point for divination. Amethyst Crystal Balls are the right color to open the mind to the universal intelligence. Wiccans call the practice of gazing into a Crystal Ball scrying.

To practice scrying relax completely, make your mind blank, and focus your attention on the Crystal Ball. While in a relaxed state, focus on the question at hand. If you are fully relaxed and your mind is open, you will see an image in your mind or hear the answer in your head. Some psychic readers have actually reported seeing images within the crystal ball. This can also be accomplished with large stones.

3. Pendulums: Pendulums are used mostly for yes or no questions. A pendulum is any weight suspended by a chain or a string. The psychic reader will hold the pendulum over loosely over the center of a paper or cloth that has been divided into areas for yes and no. Without moving the pendulum themselves, they ask a question and the pendulum will begin to swing in one direction or another, indicating an answer.

A rendition of this divination has been used on pregnant women for many years. A needle is threaded and the psychic person will hold the thread over the abdomen of the pregnant woman and ask what the baby will be. If the needle swings in a side to side, or back and forth motion, in a straight line, the baby is a boy. If the needle swings in a circle of it's own volition, the baby will be a girl.

All of these methods can be learned and are quite an interesting and different way to give a psychic reading.

Robert Watson, noted hypnotist and owner of Developing Psychic Powers has trained dozens of students to develop their powers of intuition and mediumship. Visit his Psychic Academy review page to learn more.

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Win Back Her Heart Using This Strategy

by TeeceeGo

Love sometimes has a funny way to deal with the hearts of people. Even if love seems to be so strong between a man and woman, there are still a number of things that undermine this love and eventually, the lovers do break up. Break up is almost always a sad sight. The emotional investments that each person has put into the relationship, the sleepless nights over quarrels that were smoothed out the next day; or the precious moments that these two lovers have spent together—these are all worth preserving.

Yet, breakups happen. If you have been in one recently, take heart, there are ways for you to win back her heart. Guys do make a lot of mistakes when they are trying to win back the heart of their beloved. They do this because they feel desperate and they panic that they might lose their beloved forever. On the other hand, a number of men feel that they are engaged in a competition where the girl is the "prize" and they have to "win" her back at all cost. Such a mode of thinking rarely works.

Ironically, in order to win back her heart, you need to start thinking of her as the "prize." Instead, start thinking that you love her and you want the best for her. Do not consider her as the "prize", you are the prize. With this kind of thinking, you can muster enough courage and creativity to pursue her and win back her heart.

This might sound like conceit to other people or perhaps downright condescension, yet it is not! The people who think this way feel that their girlfriend should be treated like a princess or a queen and do every single thing for them. This is not right! The woman is not your boss. She is your girlfriend and your partner in the activities that you do in life. If you prostrate yourself before her and become like a servant, she might simply look your way and ignore you for the rest of your life. You will not be able to win her heart back in this case.

Try to brush yourself up and take a look at your assets and your good qualities. Enhance them and work on your weak points. Display confidence in pursuing your girl and if she realizes who you really are, then she might be swayed to reciprocate your pursuit of her.

Winning back her heart will no longer be your effort if this happens, she will also put her own efforts on the line and before you knew it you did win back her heart and she will be in your arms once more.

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Remembering Promises Made In Marriage

by Mike Allenn

Married life is a blessing that you have the privilege and opportunity to experience. It is a wonderful part of life that should be looked at with the highest degree of importance because it not only will effect your life, but it will effect many who are often overlooked, such as children, families, extended families, and of course friends. Your example will be felt for years to come, so it is extremely important for you to keep you word in your marriage.

There will be times in your marriage when responsibilities will overwhelm you and demand your time. You will be pulled in a million different directions, and the situation may call for a decision to be made on where your priorities lye. These will be the times when it will be important for you to remember the promises you made on that lucky day when your sweet loved one said "I do".

Think of the people around you who look to you for leadership. Whether it's your kids or close family members, they notice the actions you take. Your example could have a deep impact on the decisions that they make and through your marriage you have a fantastic opportunity to demonstrate excellent values.

During your marriage you will experience some of the best times of your life. You have the chance to spend the rest of your life with your best friend. There will be adventures that will come your way and together decisions can be made on which route is best for your family. As a couple you have complete control of your futures.

Enjoy your time together because it will go all too fast. Weeks will pass like days and years will pass like months. As the years go by grow closer to each other and remember those promises you made so many years ago. Remember how lucky you are to have your better half and do everything you can to keep that relationship as strong, if not stronger than the day you say your vows.

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Divorce to Remarriage - Live Your Life - Lose That Anger

Divorce causes people to get angry. It just happens. That's part of the process of dealing with the divorce. The problem is when you become stuck in the anger and hold onto it for dear life. How many of us know a bitter & angry divorcee? You know what I mean...the ones who can't say anything positive about their ex-spouse no matter who's in the room. We've all been around them.

Today, let's focus on 3 reasons why holding onto that anger is not a good choice for you or your children.

1. It imprisons you in the past

This is anger about a relationship that is not in your future, it is ONLY in your past. You may be co-parenting with your ex-spouse and have a connection to them in that way, but no longer are you romantically linked with them.

Holding onto the anger keeps you focused on what could or should have been. There are broken dreams with the death of any marriage.

It also keeps you focused on only the bad things that happened in the relationship. All we focus on are things that fuel our anger when we are this upset. It's as if we have glasses on with a lens that filters out any happy times in order to continue feeding that anger.

2. It doesn't allow you to move forward

You aren't able to focus on the possibilities that lie ahead of you. All you can see are aspects of that past relationship.

It also causes you to hold onto the pain from that broken relationship. That pain becomes extra baggage that you carry around with you wherever you go. Would you be interested in dating someone who spends all their time bad mouthing their ex-spouse?

3. Ultimately holding onto that anger hurts your children

Your children love both of you very much. That aspect has not changed for them just because the two of you are no longer married.

Children are very adept at knowing when their parents are fighting whether it's done right in front of them or not. It is very confusing for kids when these two people they love are at odds. They can't make sense of how this is possible. This confusion typically creates a lot of anxiety for children. In response to that anxiety, frequently they take on the responsibility of maintaining the peace rather than just being children.

Is it wrong to be angry? No! Anger is an emotion and emotions just happen without our control. The way we react to the emotion such as blowing up, or choosing to fester in it is completely in our control! You have a choice to make. No, this is not an easy process and it doesn't just happen overnight.

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Secrets of Women from Around the World

by Mark Ml.

Finding true love with a woman from as far away as Russia or Ukraine might be a daunting experience for you and you likely have hundreds of questions just waiting to be answered. There are so many secrets that seem hidden in the great big world of international dating. Why is such a beautiful, intelligent woman interested in leaving her home and marrying a Western man? What are they actually looking for in a Western man? How old of a man is she willing to marry? These are just a few of the many questions men consistently ask themselves and that we'll take a look at below.

Why They're Leaving Home
Whether in Russia or Ukraine, women from around the world occasionally find that the men in their own countries do not offer the qualities they are looking for in a man. Contrary to popular belief, these women don't turn to international dating to find a rich older American or escape the horrors of her home country. These are myths that have long been outdated and inaccurate. No, brides from overseas are looking for something more from their future husband – a healthy, intelligent, and interesting man who can offer her and her future family security and prosperity.
They don't merely want citizenship in a new country either. For years, rumors propagated that these women were merely fleeing their homes for better nations and using international marriages as a method to do so. However, countries like Russia are nowhere near as bad as they were under communism and the prospect of a woman fleeing a perfectly healthy nation where her friends and family leave is preposterous. It takes a lot more than a healthy bank account and a shiny American passport to woo a foreign woman these days.


What Do They Really Want?
A woman from South Korea is interested in the same thing as a woman from Russia or a woman from America – love and well being. Finding financial security is an obvious part of that though and you shouldn't assume that they will look for it. These women are leaving their homes in search of love, moving to a new culture to raise a family. They need to know you can support them and a family.
You do not need to be rich thought to meet the criteria of financial security. You'll need to be decently well off to even pass the USCIS gate of paperwork in bringing your new bride into America, showing them you can support her. If you can pass their scrutiny, you've probably passed hers.
That brings us to the other thing women are looking for, that of love. You need more than a car and a house to impress them and you had better be aware of that before you start searching. Many women from abroad will seek out a man who is intriguing and has a decent personality, choosing such a man over a rich fellow with a mansion.
The most important thing of all though is that you are committed to your future with her. These women are looking for a long term future with you and want to know that you're the kind of man she can marry and spend her life with. You need to offer that kind of commitment and support almost immediately.


How Old is Too Old?
You cannot visit Line Match and find a bride who is 30 years younger than you and interested in leaving home to marry you. It's a tired stereotype and you should be aware of that right away. Most of the time, women from abroad are not interested in marrying someone that much older than them and will only consider men within a certain age range of their own.
Generally, this falls to about 5-15 years difference. The younger the woman is, the more willing they are to consider older men though. A woman in her 30s and 40s is going to look for someone much closer to her age though.
Another important aspect is how soon you plan on starting a family. A woman in her mid to late twenties is interested in having children much sooner and will be slightly more interested in a man who is older and more financially secure. Of course, these are generalizations based on overall statistics. Every woman has her own personal interests. The main point though is that if you are pushing 50 you're not going to have a lot of luck with the 25 year olds.


How Serious Are They?
These women are interested in finding a husband and starting a family. That means you should be as well. Treat them as though you might eventually marry them and you'll be treated in kind. Women who are truly serious about the prospects of marriage and will not change their minds later are generally 25 or older though. Though you might be intrigued by a 21 year old, you'll find that women this young have yet to truly decide what they want in life or experience enough to make that kind of decision.

Understanding the Truth
No stereotypes are ever spot on, and the same is especially true with International dating and foreign brides. You'll find that most women are very much individuals and treat marriage in different ways. However, to a certain degree you should know what to expect. There are hundreds of beautiful women waiting to meet you and start something special. Knowing what they expect is almost necessary before getting to know them.

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What to Look for When Choosing a Wedding Linen Rentals Company

by Janet Ireland

Choosing the right company for wedding linen rentals can really make or break your entire wedding and this can be true for most other types of special occasions as well. Are you planning a wedding or some other special occasion? When you are planning out the details for your wedding, your ultimate goal is for every single last detail to be absolutely perfect. One element of ensuring that everything is perfect is choosing the right wedding linen rentals company, because you will only have success if you choose the right vendors.

Below are some of the things to look for when selecting your wedding linen rentals company:

Quality wedding linen rentals companies should have a good deal of experience in the business, at least five years or more. What this means is that if you are dealing with a company that is new to the business, you are probably working with the wrong company and details are often left undone. The ideal wedding linen rentals company is one that has history in the industry; a long list of satisfied clients and can be recommended by major local hotel partners. If you are talking to a representative with a wedding linen rentals company, don't be afraid to ask, "How long have you been in business?" and take their answer very seriously.

It is common for families to open wedding linen rentals companies, because the wedding business is an extremely happy one, at least in most circumstances. Look for family owned and operated wedding linen rentals companies, and you are sure to find some gems where all of the employees and representatives are not only happy with their jobs, but also passionate about what they do.

If you know anyone who has been married in the past, ask them for advice and recommendations of some of the more reputable wedding linen rental companies in the area. If you talk to the people who know you best, they may be able to make some suggestions for companies that you normally would not have thought of. Anyone who has rented wedding linen rentals before should have a recommendation for you to consider, and you can "fine tune" the list on your own after that.

The ideal wedding linen rentals company is one that provides a great amount of variety in their product offerings. Can the company meet any specific needs that you are approaching them with? If the company seems hesitant in any way about placing the order that you require, this should be a sign that you are working with the wrong company. Good wedding linen rentals companies should have a variety of linens that will meet your needs, and they should have enough table linen rentals and chair cover rentals that they can service numerous weddings in a single day, otherwise they are not large scale enough to handle your needs and you should move on.

Everyone at your wedding is going to notice your wedding linen rentals. You are going to want your linens to be elegant looking, stylish, bold and soft. They should coordinate well with the rest of your wedding, and they should be able to stand up to typical use. Your wedding linen rentals should be freshly ironed and clean in appearance. If you find a good wedding linen rentals company, they should be able to provide you with an excellent price, and outstanding quality linens as well.

Janet Ireland is a special event decorating enthusiast and frequent contributor to Magical Party Rentals.com, a premier Internet resource for wedding chair cover rentals. Making dreams a reality online since 2003.

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Vaastu: The Vedic Science Of Construction

by Victor Epand

Vaastu is traditionally used in India for town planning and architecture. Vaastu comes from the Vedic literature and is found in the Atharvaveda. Vaastu is also known as Sthapathya Veda. It attracts good health conditions, happiness and prosperity.

There are four categories of Vaastu

1. The earth/ site - Bhoomi, on which everything stands
2. Structures on the earth - Prasada
3. Movable objects - Yaana
4. Furniture - Sayana

The Five Elements

Vaastu is the science of direction and architecture that puts together the five elements of nature and adjust them in harmony with the man and the material. Vaastu Shastra is creating a congenial settings or a place to live or work, taking advantage of the benefits bestowed by the five elements called "Paancha Maha Bhootas" of the nature thereby producing positive energy that enhances health, wealth, prosperity and happiness in a spiritual environment.

Each direction is ruled by a deity and they are as follows:

1. Northeast - Eeshanya or Eeshwara Siva - Ruled by Lord of all quarters
2. East - Aditya- Ruled by Sun God
3. Southeast - Agni- Ruled by Lord of Fire - Agni
4. South - Yama- Ruled by Lord of Death - Yama
5. Southwest - Pitru/Nairutya, Nairuthi- Ruled by ancestors
6. West - Varuna - Ruled by Lord of water
7. Northwest - Vayu - ruled by Lord Of Winds
8. North - Kubera - Ruled by Lord of Wealth
9. Center - Brahma - Ruled by Lord/Creator of the Universe

Vaastu in Building:

Vaastu Shastra prescribes favourable forms or shapes for sites and buildings based on flow of energy. Many of the rules are attributed in a way that they are in line with the cosmos creation - the sun's path, the rotation of the earth, magnetic field, etc. The sunrise and morning sun is especially beneficial and purifying and hence the East is a treasured direction. The body is considered a magnet with the head, the heaviest and most important part, being considered the North Pole and the feet the South pole. Therefore sleeping with one's head in the North is said to cause a repulsive force with the earth's magnetic North and thus is harmful.

Vaastu in Health:

When we talk of Vaastu and health, we need to relate Vastu with Ayurveda. By intertwining the two subjects we will be in a position to understand the different diseases and health problems and how by certain Vaastu corrections we could treat the diseases or ailments better for giving faster relief to the patients.

The Air principle: created from ether and air. A Vata person can be prone to chronic constipation,back pain (normally lower back), paralysis, arthritis, etc.

The fire principle: Created from fire. A Pitta individual can be prone to rashes, itches and be susceptible to liver disorders.

The Water Principle: Created from water and earth. A Kapha individual can be prone to congestion of lungs, obesity, bronchitis, sinusitis and cold related ailments.

These three basic problems also called tridoshas, three bio-energies or biological humors, build and nurture the body and carry out the biological functions of an individual. The augmentation or decline of one or more of these doshas upsets the biological functions and disease sets in.

Disturbing Energies: Effects of vaastu on the environment

Studies reveal that the tsunami tidal waves moved along the Northwest -Southeast diagonal to hit India and Sri Lanka.

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Telford Divorce Solicitor Urgently Warns About Risks Involving Cheap Do It Yourself Divorce!

Advice offered after Tesco Supermarket launched a divorce advice pack costing just £7. A Shropshire Solicitor cautions UK couples, who are considering opting for a cheap do-it-yourself divorce, that they could find it costs them greatly in the long-run.

Telford Divorce Solicitor, who heads the Family Law Team at Martin-Kaye Solicitors Shropshire advises that "Although on the face of it, the self-help divorce package seems like a cheap option, it could cost couples dearly in the future."

"DIY divorces can work well for cases where there are no children or assets from the marriage involved, but they are generally not suitable for more complicated cases."

Many divorcing couples do not realize that even when there has been a Decree Absolute, both partners still have the right to pursue financial claims arising from the marriage – and this process can continue until they get remarried or die.

"We are seeing increasing numbers of people who have dealt with their divorces themselves and who are now facing difficulties. They thought they had resolved their financial issues amicably with their spouse at the time of their separation, only to find themselves on the wrong end of a court application for financial support several years later."

"These clients are horrified to learn that their former spouse can seek further financial relief, no matter what was previously agreed. And even worse, the Court will consider their financial situation as it stands at the time of the new application, when often their finances have significantly improved."

With proper legal advice at the time of the separation, couples can ask for a Clean Break Order to be made alongside the divorce, to ensure they are protected.

"This ensures any agreement reached is recorded and takes away the power of the former spouse to pursue further claims, which means both partners can get on with their lives. Ultimately, people stand to lose a lot more if they are ordered to pay their former spouse financial relief, and that cheap DIY divorce could end up being very expensive indeed. Professional advice at the time of the separation is the best way forward, and will help protect both parties in the future."

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Nadia Davis is an experienced Telford Family Law Solicitor at Martin Kaye Solicitors in Shropshire. She is a member of the Law Society's specialist Children Panel.

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Online Dating Success

by Sadie Bedgegood

Looking for a formula for successful dating? It's a simple equation with only two factors involved: you and your date. Of course it's not that simple, but with more than six billion people on this planet, you can be sure that a great partner is waiting for you. The trick is how to find your suitable match. That's why easy-to-use online dating, or Internet dating, continues to rise in popularity.

There are countless Internet dating services available, with virtually hundreds of thousands of single men and women ready and waiting to meet their potential matches. While dating online certainly has its advantages, there has been a degree of misuse and corruption that's brought certain disadvantages to light. Your safety must always come first. Be smart and take care in choosing the people you correspond with and personally meet.

There are many important things to consider when first trying your hand at online dating. Attitude is the first thing to consider. If you want to successfully make contact with new people, you'll need to keep your attitude bright and positive. In the real world, and online, your outlook is perhaps the single most important factor that can make or break dating success.

Keep your correspondence positive. Always treat yourself with respect and others will know that you expect the same treatment from them. Whether you are creating a profile, corresponding by email, chatting on the telephone or meeting for the first time at a local coffee house, your positive attitude means all the difference.

You shouldn't take the process too seriously, and remember that every situation is different. Each individual contact should be judged separately, but do follow your intuition.

Here are some tips to help make your online dating experience a success:

Start slow. Meeting someone new can certainly cause an adrenaline rush. Remember to slow down and act rationally. Be on the lookout for odd behaviors or inconsistencies, and if anything at all makes you uncomfortable, end the correspondence for your own safety and protection.

Be anonymous. Never include identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Your last name, email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other personal information should be kept strictly confidential. Do not open yourself up to potential dangers by trusting the untrustworthy.

A picture is worth so much. Photographs are a great way to get to know a potential suitor a little better. Requesting a photo does not indicate shallowness. It's only natural to want to see what a potential date looks like, and seeing a photo can provide a clearer perspective of the person in general.

Make the call. The telephone is a valuable tool in online dating. Once you and your potential date have connected through online correspondence, a telephone conversation will take your relationship to a whole new level. You can remain secure and anonymous while reviewing the other person's social and communication skills. If your phone conversation leaves you with doubts, you can still safely end your correspondence.

Internet dating can be fun and it is a very convenient way to meet people. Stay safe, play smart and remain positive. With so many people on our planet, you can bet there is plenty of romance to go around and there is someone special waiting to meet you right now.

Contributor Sadie Bedgegood loves writing for a variety of Internet sites, on family history and family matter subjects.

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Wedding make-up. The natural look

by Ariane Poole

This look is just best for someone who doesn't wear much make-up but wants to look polished on the day. Or for someone who wants an underplayed look. Celebrity example - Jennifer Anniston Begin with the right foundation for your skin tone if you need it, or skip straight to the Concealer Palette To give your complexion more radiance apply Skin Illuminator in Champagne before foundation or concealer. EYES - Apply Crystal Taupe Eye Shine just to the lids. - Accent the outer corners with the Powder Pencil in Brown Suede. - Highlight under the arch of the brows with the lightest shade from the Toffee Trio. - Finish off with Waterproof Mascara in Black CHEEKS - Using the Face Trio in Toffeedot the middle shade from the Trio along your cheekbones and blend with fingertips. Now using brush #2 from the Brush Set, sweep the powder from the Trio over the cheeks. This really helps your blush look good all day. Use the lightest shade from the Trio to accent the tops of your cheekbones. Add Waterproof mascara in Black. LIPS - Apply Lip Base first to keep your lip colour on longer. - Define the shape of your lips with the Natural Lip Pencil - Finish off with a touch of Not Too Nude lip duo. Apply the Not Too Nude liquid lip colour first then follow with a touch of gloss. Complete the look with a dusting of Universal Yellow Powder just on your t-zone.

SUN KISSED This is a fantastic look for a summer wedding. Celebrity example: Jennifer Lopez Commence with right foundation for your skin tone or skip straight to the Concealer Palette. Help with complexion by a glow mix a little Shimmer Tint in Bronze with your foundation or the Concealer Palette. All you'll need is the Summer Glow Trio. The carefully sel;ected shades of this Trio have been specially designed to compliment and enhance your complexion. The (matte) Bronze adds warmth to your complexion without looking shiney. The Bloom (apricot/pink) does just that, brings a gentle flush of colour. And the Glow (shimmery soft gold) accents and highlights with a subtle sheen. It comes with a uniquely designed multi retractable brush. The brush offers two settings so that you can get a variety of effects from your Trio.

How to get a Sun Kissed Look: - Start by applying a hint of colour to your complexion with the bronze shade Use the Multi brush open to the maximum setting to lightly dust all over your face. Don't forget your neck. Put a little extra where the sun hits naturally, cheeks, bridge of the nose, above the arch of the brows. Now set the Multi Brush to demi and add a little on your eye lids.

To create sculpted cheeks - keep the brush on the demi setting and apply the bronze shade just below your cheek bones. Using bronzer on its own can look good but I wanted to give that extra Wow! which is why I've included the other 2 colours Bloom & Glow. - Add a hint of colour with Bloom. Using the Multi Brush set on full, smile and sweep Bloom over the apples of the cheeks.

Eyes- Then set the Multi Brush to demi and add a little Bloom to your eye lids. -Next use the Multi Brush on the demi setting and sweep Glow below the arch of brows, along the top of the cheek bone and along your nose. Finish with Waterproof mascara.

- Complete this look with a touch ofIncognito Lip Shine or one of the delicious shades from the Fudge Flip Kit.

Top Tip: To keep your brush clean simply swipe over a tissue.

EVENING or Glamorous LOOK A great look, that's glamorous and striking without being over the top. Celebrity example: Catherine Zeta Jones. Commence with right foundation for your skin tone, or skip straight to the Concealer Palette. Help with complexion by more radiance apply Skin Illuminator in Champagne before foundation or concealer. EYES - Eyes are dramatic yet easy to achieve, using a mix of soft shimmers and charcoals. The key to this look is BLENDING. Use either the applicator or your fingers to apply the Caviar shadow just to your lids. A light application will give you a soft charcoal effect while layering will create a more deep dramatic look. Put a bit more emphasis on the outer corners and way along the base of your lower lashes for a smoky look. If your eyes are deep set then extend the charcoal shade slightly above the lids to get that soft smoky look. Now add some Wow!! with the Black / Silver Glitter Pencil applied over the Caviar Shadow and blended with your finger to achieve a twinkling effect. Next sweep the Champagne Shadow just down below the arch of your brows to accent and lift. Finish off with a generous amount of black Waterproof mascara. CHEEKS - Cheeks are subtly sculpted with a flush of colour. Apply three dots of Cinnaberry just under the cheek bones and to the apples of the cheeks. To achieve a more chiselled look, accent the top of your cheek bones with a touch of Champagne. LIPS - Lips are emphasised with a seductive red. Using the lip brush apply Cranberry Crush a sheer red for a beautifully defined pout.DIRECTIVE LOOK

This look is a directional make-up, that offers the bride a wearable catwalk feeling. Celebrity inspiration: Victoria Beckham This season there are a lot of brights around.

Begin with right foundation for your skin tone, or skip straight to the Concealer Palette EYES - Apply a wash of colour to the lids using Crystal Amethyst Eye Shine. - Next add a sweep of Glitter Pencil in Purple / Silver to the base of the top lashes. - Finish with a generous coating ofWaterproof Mascara in Black. CHEEKS - For a flush of colour, apply the middle shade from the Angelic Face Trio to the apples of the cheeks and top with the Shimmer Stick in Bermuda for a healthy glow. - Highlight the cheek bones and under the eyes with a sweep of Under Eye & Face Brightener. LIPS - Apply Lip Base first to keep your lip colour on longer. - Lips are kept fresh and sheer with Damson Lip Glaze or by mixing any of the colours from the Bon Bon Flip Kit.

Classic Timeless Bride

Start with the right foundation for your skin tone if you need it, or skip straight to the Concealer Palette Help with complexion by added radiance apply Skin Illuminator in Champagne before foundation or concealer Then create your entire look with the: Timeless Face Palette I have chosen each shade in this palette to compliment every skin tone, eye colour and age so you can wear them with confidence. The palette consists of 5 products: 1 powder blush in Rose Glow, 3 eye shadows in Chiffon, Sheer Taupe and Bitter Chocolate and Lip Tint Plus in Hint of Tint. The palette also comes with a double ended brush for eyes and lips Let's Commence with eyes. I've brought together 3 timeless shades. The palest called Chiffon is a beautiful cream shade with a slight sheen. Use this as a wash of colour over your lids up to the brow bone to brighten and refresh your eyes. It's also the appropriate base colour for a professional eye make-up look. The mid-tone shade `Sheer Taupe' is one of those chameleon like shades which takes on it's own individual shade to suit you. Simply brush it over the lid to the socket line, then blend it upwards and outwards to give your eyes a touch of subtle colour. The darkest shadow of the three is `Bitter Chocolate' especially chosen for its sheer texture. This means you can wear it as subtly or strongly as you want - just simply layer to the intensity of colour you want. This shade is also ideal for defining your socket line or lining your lashes. 5 steps to classic eye make-up You can wear each of the eye colours alone or blend them together for a more sophisticated look. 1 Dust the surface of your eyelid with Universal Yellow Powder to ensure an even, oil-free base. 2 Apply Chiffon over your eyelid up to your brow bone. 3 Smooth Sheer Taupe over your lids up to the socket and blend this upwards and outwards with the brush. When you look straight ahead this shade should appear just above your socket line and disappear into the Chiffon shade. 4 Take the darkest shade Bitter Chocolate on the brush and make a C shape in the outer corners to open up your eyes. Then, blend this shade lightly along the socket line, so the colour fades away at the inner corners. Take a cotton bud and smudge Bitter Chocolate along your lower lashes. Again, graduating from dark in the outer corners to invisible in the inner corners. 5 Use a cotton bud to dot Chiffon in the inner corners of your eyes and Finish with Lush Mascara. Rose Glow Blush This is the appropriate colour for giving your face a lift. Over the years, I've found that women of all skin tones benefit from warm pink blush. It gives a healthy look like you've been out for a brisk walk. Tips on where to apply your blush * Let's Start with the classic way. Apply your blush just slightly down below your cheek bone, from the apple blending up ward towards the ear. This will give a slightly sculpted effect. Great if you want bring out your cheek bones, and/or thin your face. You can also apply blush to the apple of your cheeks. To find your apples simply smile, and put your blush on the 'roundy' bit. This gives a really fresh glow, which looks great on almost everyone.

* Don't put blusher too high up because this can go onto the eye area and close up the space between your eyes and cheeks. Lip Tint Plus Lip Tint Plus in Hint of Tint completes the Timeless Face Palette. This sheer lip treatment that has a hint of rosy colour and is packed with vitamins A, C & E to protect your lips from damage and Avocado, Camomile, Jojoba and Sweet Almond Oil to condition your lips as you wear it. Smooth it on anytime with your fingertip or with the lip brush. Wear it alone for just a hint of colour or with any of the gorgeous lip glosses. Finish off with Waterproof Mascara.

TEN MUST HAVES 1) Skin Illuminator in Champagne This is one of my all time favourite products. What a fantastic product. 2) Conceal & Contour Palette This fabulous multi-functional yellow based palette contains 3 shades of concealer that you can custom blend to suit your individual colouring all year round. Complete with a brush for precise application, the yellow shades work beautifully to counteract the blue hue down below the eyes and the redness of blemishes or thread veins. The texture has been specially formulated to effectively cover blemishes and red veins, yet is soft enough to work below the eyes without emphasizing fine lines. An absolute must. 3) Face & Body Bronzer This is wonderfully versatile instant feel and look marvellous product. It can be use anywhere on the body to add instant colour and shimmer. It helps boost a fading tan real or false. You can mix it with moisturiser to give your face subtle sunkissed glow. Or apply to the body for an instant bronzed sheen. 4) Below Eye & Face Brightener A radiant `pick me up' for those days when your skin could do with a little extra help. The combination of matte pink and lilac works to enliven and illuminate the face. Dust the lilac shade down below the eyes to counteract any dark shadows and brush along the cheek bones to brighten. Swirl the pink and lilac together and dust lightly over the face to add instant radiance. 5) Natural Lip Pencil Shape and define your lips with the Natural Lip Pencil. The closest colour you'll get to your natural lip shade, this soft textured pencil is the appropriate partner for all your lipsticks. 6) Waterproof Mascara An absolute must have for everyone. 7) Mini Universal Yellow Powder & Small Retractable Brush. A truly universal powder specially formulated to suit any complexion. Its unique yellow shade has been balanced to be invisible on all skin tones. So whether you're black, asian, olive-skinned or porcelain pale, this one shade will work brilliantly for you. It's appropriate for diffusing shine and giving a velvet matte Finish up to the complexion. 8) Timeless Face Palette 9) Crystal Taupe or Crystal Amethyst Eye Shines. This stunning long-lasting, crease resistant, cream to powder shadow is beautifully packaged in a clear twist-up unit with a unique shower head applicator. Making beautiful eyes has never been easier! 10) Powder Pencil in either Brown Suede or Ebony. The fabulous ultra-soft texture of these powder pencils makes it incredibly easy to add shape and definition to the eye. Colour glides on effortlessly and blends beautifully.

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The Rapture of Christ's Church

by .JohnSmith.

In May 2004, I was sick in bed with pneumonia for 9 days. I stayed in bed like the doctor told me to, but had this consuming energy to do something. I decided to take advantage of the down time away from work, and read a book that I had always wanted to read called Left Behind. I am in no way trying to sell anyone on the book; it is just that this book stirred up something in me that prompted me to go on a quest in my Bible. Through all of my searching, I have decided that regardless of who is right and who is wrong about the Rapture, NO ONE should wait another moment to accept Jesus Christ or delay until the "time is right" to tell their loved ones the Good News which is...

That by accepting Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, and by asking for forgiveness of their sins, the Gift of Salvation is there and waiting for them. No one knows the day or the time that our Lord Jesus will come to take up His Church. But wouldn't you want to be ready? Or for that matter, for your loved ones to be ready, whether it is in this lifetime or not? Whether we have to suffer through the tribulation or not, why take the risk? Do you understand the risk of not accepting the Gift of Salvation? I will tell you:

"YOU RUN AN ETERNAL RISK OF BEING SEPARATED FROM GOD FOREVER."

I, like many of you, have heard about and wondered about "The Rapture" of Christ's faithful followers. Many believe that this day will come after certain events have taken place, some believe not at all in our lifetime. My own personal belief has been that the Rapture would take place once the Antichrist had shown his power to the world and after the beast had made his mark on humanity, sometime after the Tribulation. The Tribulation or "Great Tribulation" is an event referred to in the New Testament of the Bible in Matthew 24:21 (KJV and other passages): "For then shall be great tribulation..."

When I was a baby, I was baptized and grew up in the Methodist Church. I was confirmed in the Lutheran Church at the age of 30, but did not truly accept Christ until the age of 40, when I was at an all time low in my life. At the age of 44, I was water-baptized in the Pentecostal Church, and have learned to lean on God in all of my circumstances. So basically, what I am saying is, if you understand how detrimental it would be, to be separated from God, no matter what religion you are - but do not share this wisdom with your loved ones, you run the risk of THEM being separated from God FOREVER. It is in everyone's best interest to open his or her heart to God and listen, and/or open the Bible and read.

MY READING SUGGESTION:

FIRST: Study the book of John, then Romans and then Matthew. If you have trouble understanding the Bible, try reading the New Living Translation (NLT) or the New International Version (NIV).

Scripture Indicating the Return of Jesus Christ:

Matthew 24: 23-31 (NIV), Matthew 24: 36-44 (NIV), 1 Corinthians 15: 51-57 (NIV), 1 Thessalonians 4: 13-18 (NLT)

Cindy Hamilton was born and raised in Northern California, and now resides in Northern Delaware. As owner and administrator of http://www.womansinfo.com, Cindy spends a majority of her free time dedicated to helping other women in as many ways as possible

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Secretly Settling in Your Relationship?

by Paul Sterling

Some people have the relationships of their dreams, but most people don't. Most people are secretly suffering and settling — stuck wishing things were better without much chance of change.

What's the difference? What keeps people trapped in dead end situations?

There are three main reasons why people don't have the relationships of their dreams.

Reason #1: Blaming their partner for the problems. "It's all their fault!"

The first and most obvious reason is blaming their partner for everything. They think, "If my partner would only change, things would be perfect." This is such an easy trap to fall into, but if you think about it, it's very dis-empowering.

Why? Because it implies that your future and happiness depend on somebody else changing. And when you think about how hard it is to change your own behavior (as in dieting, quitting smoking, working out, etc.) you start to realize that this strategy is not going to be very successful.

Reason #2: "People know what to do, but they're not doing what they know."

Some people don't have the relationship of their dreams because they are not willing to do the things that they know would help transform the relationship.

This is often a spin-off of reason #1. After-all, "It's their fault, why should I change?" It also may be because of past programming, conditioning and baggage. But whatever is stopping you, you may be unwilling to lead the transformation in your relationship.

Reason #3, "You are willing to change, you just don't know what to change."

The last reason you might not have the relationship of your dreams, is that you don't know what to do.

You don't have the tools, skills and training to deal with the emotional, impactful and important issues that come up in relationships without taking it personally or making it personal — without attacking or defending.

Doctors learn the language of medicine. Attorneys learn the language of law. Plumbers learn the language of pluming. And couples need to learn the language of compassion and understanding for relationships.

You may not have the specialized skills you need to listen effectively so your partner really wants to talk openly and vulnerably with you.(Most people don't. Not even doctors and lawyers. Look at their divorce rates!)

Or, you may not have the skills that will allow you to talk in a way that your partner will really want to listen and understand you.

When issues come up in a relationship here are some of the strategies people try:

First and foremost is the "Ignore It and Hope It Goes Away" strategy. This is by far the easiest strategy, and at the same time, the least effective.

Occasionally it does work because the level of drama and emotions is reduced. But usually it ends up in only suppressing the drama for the moment, but never resolving it.

The second strategy is asking friends and family for advice. Warning. be very careful about seeking advice from friends and family. Before you do, look at their relationships and see whether or not those relationships are ones you are envious of.

Do they walk their talk? If you followed their advice would you have the relationship of your dreams?

The third strategy is reading articles and books, listening to tapes and watching Dr. Phil or Oprah. I am all for this, as there are some amazing books out there by some great relationship experts. The drawback is that often times what you really need is much more of a hands-on approach.

You wouldn't want to learn how to parachute from a book "The Idiots Guide To Jumping Out Of a Plane." But once you know how to skydive, you can use a book for some fine tuning tips.

The fourth strategy is counseling and therapy. I will give you a mixed review on these. There are definitely people out there who can help you totally transform your relationship… but there are also people out there who are charging an awful lot of money and can't even maintain a relationship of their own.

Most therapy is set up around solving a specific problem, rather than giving you the tools and training to be able to communicate about any issue with compassion, intimacy and understanding.

And then there's the fifth and often most effective strategy: get yourself a relationship coach.

If you were going to lose weight or get in shape. there are three things you need, first a commitment, next a system you can stick to and lastly a good trainer or coach.

You need someone who will teach you, inspire you and if needed, kick you in the butt to keep on the path.

Getting your relationship in shape is not quick. You don't go to the gym once a year and actually expect any lasting results. Do you?

Seek a coach who is knowledgeable about HOW to improve your relationship - somebody who can give you the tools to dig out what's bugging you from your past, and the skill to move through those issues in the present.

Seek a coach who will work with you compassionately. Dr. Phil is funny with his no-nonsense style of coaching ("Get over it!"). But there's nothing like some compassion and empathy for where you're at now - for your beautiful desire to improve things - even if your current strategies aren't working.

Empathy goes a long way toward healing those old wounds. Start today.

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Passionate Marriages

If I ask you who your most excellent companion is, a lot of of you would end up to your other half or partner. close up associates contribute to a well-built touching bond, take pleasure in spending occasion with each one other and over and over again having a lot in common. on the other hand, there are significant rudiments of a idealistic association that set it apart from a just-friends relationship, sensuality, and bodily attraction.

unluckily, in a lot of long-term relations, fervor wane as the survival go by and the pair begin behave further similar to close up connections than fervent partners.

The four mindsets that can obliterate passion:

1. You consider that sex is detached from supplementary parts of your association.

A association axiom couple frequently forget: How you take care of your associate outside the bedroom affects what happen within the bedroom. If your associate perceives you as unresponsive or critical, it should not be a shocked when you have the sense of hearing I am if truth be told not in the frame of mind tonight."

The seeds of passion are put outside the bedroom to take care of the moving connection of your association and you will take care of passion.

2. You are waiting for impulsive sex to take place.

Please pay no attention to the Hollywood movies that give you an idea about couples knocking over each pot and pan in the kitchen as they are overcoming with wish and cannot hang around to get to the bedroom to have sex. natural sexual burning may have occurred at what time you and your partner were primarily dating, but for couples who continue to exist past the two-year mark, life's impulsive activities are further possible to engage heartburn and dyspepsia than sex.

Do not be submissive about passion winning couples work on to create passion.

3. You believe sex is mainly physical.

Sex is psychological, emotional and physical. For a lot of, the path to huge sex start in their brain. You've probably heard the adage: "The most influential organ of sex is between the ears." Your imagination and fantasy life can be a great aphrodisiac. For this to occur, you and your associate need to candidly exchange a few words on the subject of your sexual needs and wellbeing.

advice and deliberations about what works and doesn't work in the bedroom will pave the way to a more fulfilling sex life.

4. You still consider in "the quickie."

not anything kills passion similar to a quick ambiance. You are not a young person at all longer, translate: Your corpse and libido has slow downward a small piece in view of the fact that from the sex hormones were the fresh kids on the chunk. Do you warm up previous to exercising? Do you give permission to your car inactive previous to heading off to job in the morning? You and your associate possibly will have dissimilar warm-up times previous to feeling prepared for sex admiration these differences and get it slow.

Give fervor the time it deserves.

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Keep Your Good Man

by Bradlley Mckoy

If you've been a single girl for much too long, you know how tough the dating world could be and how hard it is to get yourself a good man. Of course, when you finally snag yourself a rare find, you'll do anything to make the relationship work. You want to make sure that you keep the flame and the passion burning, as well as the conversation and laughter flowing. Suffice to say, you want to maintain a relationship that's as happy as possible.



Give Space



You might want to spend a lot of time with your man. Chances are he does, too. This is a good thing. For a man, however, too much of a good thing can be suffocating and just downright overwhelming. That's why a lot of men suddenly clamp up and close down and can be very distant when you're spending way too much time together.



The best way to keep your man wanting to spend time with you is to make it his choice. Meaning, you have to give him the space that he needs to breathe, to be with his buddies, and to do his 'thing'. It may seem like a hard thing to do, so why not use the time to do the things that you want to do? Chances are he'll find himself realizing that he misses you and really wants to spend time with you - and no one else - after all.



Don't Sweat The Small Stuff

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In every relationship, there will be some things that you can't agree on, some attitudes and habits that you don't like, and some facts that can be hard to accept. A common mistake that women make is nagging and blowing things out of proportion when they can't get their way - and that's a surefire way to get your man running for the hills.



If you can't agree, then agree to disagree. After all, you're both not grown from the same pod, so you can't be expected to think alike all the time. It's best to avoid topics that you know you can't agree on and focus on the things that you both find mutually pleasing.



Everybody has bad habits, and most men particularly have many. If your man has a bad habit or an attitude that annoys you, bring it up in the most unobstrusive way possible. This way, you can talk about it and maybe arrive at a compromise. Nagging will only make things infinitely worse.



You also have to accept the fact that your man has a past, just like you. If you're irked at ex-girlfriends or certain things that he's done in the past, let it go. You weren't in the picture back then, so that shouldn't concern you - just as your past doesn't concern him. It's a difficult thing to do, but one that must be done for both your sake and your own sanity.



Indeed, it may seem like men and women are from two different planets, but differences can be bridged. Making a relationship work is simply a matter of acceptance, trust, a lot of patience, and compromise.


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Top Ten Tips for Choosing a Wedding Tuxedo

by Janine Giorgenti

She said yes! Now, you have to get ready for the big day. You will stand with your bride and share your devotion with your friends and family. Choosing a tuxedo for a day so important can be a bit overwhelming. Here are some tips to make your job a little easier.



1) "Get With" the Theme! And Don't Forget the Bride!



Don't look out of place at your own wedding! Weddings can have themes ranging from The Great Gatsby, to Art Deco, Renaissance, Nouveau... It's your party and you're the co-star. So, dress the part! Select a tux that goes well with the bride's gown. For instance, if it's a traditional wedding, dress in a classic tux. If it is a modern wedding or themed wedding, then dress according to the theme and style.



2) "Don't Sweat It!"



Consider the climate and time of year. If you are getting married in the south in mid-summer, you should go with a lighter, more breathable fabric. If your theme is a beach wedding, opt for white instead of the traditional black tux. In the winter months, a traditional tux may do the trick.



3) Like "Night and Day."



Are you planning an evening or daytime wedding? The general rule is that evening weddings or those after 6pm are considered more formal. Such a wedding calls for full dress, including tux, tuxedo shirt, cummerbund or vest, tie or bow tie, cufflinks and studs and tuxedo shoes.



For daytime weddings, your attire can be less formal. Although a tux is still appropriate, some couples opt for a dressy suit with tuxedo accessories.



4) It's All About You!



Find your personal style and show some flair, whether it is the style of your tux shirt or the cufflinks and studs that you choose. A touch here and there can really make the look your own.



5) Don't Be Late For Your Own Wedding!



Don't procrastinate! This is not something you sit on until a couple of weeks before your wedding. Finding the right tuxedo takes time, as do fittings to make it look just right. Alterations can take a few weeks. If you're having the tux custom made, allow 2 months.

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6) It Just Ain't Fitting!



Make sure it fits. There should be no pulling, puckering, sagging or drooping. The length should cover your socks when you are walking but not puddle on the floor when you are standing. A professional will be able to help you make the right choices and get a fit that will be both comfortable and flattering.



7) Ahhhhhh, This Feels Good!



Yes, you can be comfortable in a tuxedo, if it fits well and is made from a nice, high-quality fabric. When you figure in the photo sessions, the wedding ceremony and the reception, not to mention all that dancing, you will be wearing this tuxedo for quite a while.



8) When a Little "Bling" Will Do!



Tuxedo shirts require cufflinks and studs. Here is where you can flaunt your personal taste, by choosing from simple gold knots to gorgeous inlays. You don't have to spend a fortune. Unless the set is under a jeweler's loupe, costume cufflinks and studs will achieve the same look.



9) Who Wants "Pre-owned," Anyway!



Consider buying rather than renting. A tuxedo is no more expensive than a good quality suit. You would never rent a suit, so why rent a tux? Plus, you don't know who's worn it before... yuck! The fit will look better and the fabric will feel great on a tuxedo that you buy or have made... Most importantly, you get to keep it.



10) You Are My Sunshine!



Polish and shine! Shoes finish off your look. Make sure they are clean and polished. Black patent leather is the standard. Don't forget to break them in if they are new. The last thing you want to think about during this momentous occasion is how much your feet hurt.



So enjoy yourself and have the time of your life!





Copyright (c) 2008 Janine Giorgenti


Janine Giorgenti is a renowned fourth generation Italian designer, image consultant and custom clothier. Visit her website at www.bestcustomtuxedo.com for more style advice and fashion tips.

Confession - It's Time To Take Out The Garbage!

by Cliff Glass

None of us wants to look inward at ourselves and see the bad things we have stored up. We like to believe that we are good people. We convince ourselves that because we do not commit criminal acts that we are good people. We also say things like, " I'm not perfect, I make mistakes". What's wrong with us? We convince ourselves that we are good, yet on the other hand we are bad too. So have we convinced ourselves that we are blameless for our actions? Do we figure we are not bad because we're not in jail? We like to think that since we are not perfect that it's ok to continue living the way we do. We all know that the flesh is corupt. All the flesh thinks about is itself. It doesn't want anything to do with the soul or the spirit (our intellect). The carnal mind is going to keep on telling us lies as long as it can get what it wants. And as long as the flesh is dominate over our spiritual side, we will keep on deceiving ourselves.



The flesh is mans downfall, it wants what the world has to offer, not what God has to offer. As long as we obey the flesh we will be bent towards the world, not walking upright like God created us. To receive what God has to offer one needs to start by denying ones self and that is like death to the flesh. So in a carnal, fleshly way we pursue sensual pleasures, or things that gratify our appetites. Problem is that something is missing: "God". You could go to church all week, volunteer, study your bible, etc., etc., but as long as your flesh is dominate you have no life in Christ. Mark 8:34 - 37.



Who do you worship, God or the world and the things that belong to it? You can't have both. Although many people think they can. One of the problems is, is that as long as we can't see any wrong in what we are doing than it must be ok, right? Wrong. We are completely blind to these things because we are still carnal. We have not awakened the soul and spirit yet. The only way to awaken our spiritual side is by denying ourselves and following Jesus to the tomb (this is not the baptism of water. The water baptism is a baptism that is a pledge made to God from a good conscience. After we die in Christ we then can be reborn to our true spiritual selves. This is the spiritual revolution that begins to take place. The flesh doesn't understand what's going on. The light of faith is darkness to the flesh. The flesh no longer has control of its normal faculties. This is where the battle begins.



In order to help reach this point we need to look inward. We need to acknowledge our sins. 1John 1:8,9 'If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all iniquity'. In order to acknowledge our sins we need to turn to Jesus for His help. Remember, we need to first deny ourselves, which means we need to want to give up our old ways of living, all of it,a nd pick up our cross. We will need it to nail the flesh upon it. Jesus is the way, follow Him. This is what He meant when He said,' The road is long and narrow and few find it'. It's not a matter of finding it, it's right in front of you. You need to be willing to get on this road at all costs, no matter what tests and trials come up. It's not a road for the lazy ones or the ones of the world. It's for people who want to be known as a child of God.

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If you can turn your eyes inward and with all sincerity and honesty and willingness to clean yourself up, Jesus will be there to help you. He will even bring forth the sins you forgot. It is a deep and serious cleansing. The sins we remember and the ones shown to us by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, we need to write them down. You can put them in categories like: greed, lusts, sloth, impatience, anger, resentments, envy, gluttony and jealousy. It's going to take some time to do this, so don't rush it. It's a wonderful learning experience as well. After you have written all this down, you need to take it someone who is experienced in this type of confession. So that you two can talk about what you have written and pray together for your forgiveness. In James 5:16 it says, ' So confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another and this will cure you'. No denying this scripture. I've been in alot of different churches and I don't know why they don't teach this. Could be because we're lacking in spiritual teachers and preachers. Too many taught by man and not by the Lord. Also this is not a subject that would tickle people's ears.



I'm going to give you a testimony if I may of my experience of this type of confession. I'm only telling this to show you truth in the scriptures of the importance of a true, all out confession and to glorify God bless His heart and soul. When I learned of this type of confession and decided to do it because I was willing to do anything and everything in my walk with Jesus to grow spiritually and learn to do what's right in the eyes of God. When I took all my papers that I had written all my sins on to a minister that was familiar with this type of confession, we talked about everything and he even asked questions about things he didn't see on the papers. Then we prayed. After we were done, I felt so renewed and pure inside I cannot even begin to explain how beautiful it was.



When I left I ran into some people I knew and they asked me what was going on. I said," What do you mean?". They said that I had this glow about me. I told them what I had just done. I could see in their faces that they were just in awe by seeing this radiance of light glowing from my body. From my head to my toes I was in such a wonderful state of overwhelming...I'm sorry but I just can't find the words to describe it. I don't think there are any. This is what the baptism of the Holy Spirit is about, I know that for sure. After your confession there is one more thing for you to do. Make amends to the people you have resentments towards and people you have hurt and done wrong to. If you would like a suggestion on how to find out who would be a good person to do a confession with please e-mail me at: thetruth@itrustgodonly.com. May God Bless You Dearly.


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Choosing a Great Wedding Favor

by Jesicca Aloe

Wedding favor is a small gift given as gesture of appreciation to wedding guest from the bride and groom. Giving a wedding favor to wedding guest is a tradition in such country. You need the perfect favors for your perfect wedding, because it is your personal thanks statement to your guest for coming.



Wedding favor can create an experience for your guest long after your wedding is over. Unique favors are more than just a souvenir. This favor is their memory about your wedding. So, it is needed to choose the unique and special wedding favor for you guest.



There are many type of wedding favors, like garden wedding favors, Asian favors, beach favors, and other famous type favors. Some favors include a unique and personalized idea, like pens, boxes, candles, vases, or cameras.



Choosing the right favor sometimes is difficult and sometimes is easy. Before you decide what favor you'll buy, you can go to some wedding favor online stores. There are many online stores available in internet. You can visit their website and looking around their favors. Order some examples before you decide to bulk buy the favors. Check whether the favor ordered is good enough.



It is better that you choose a functional favor. You must expect that your favor will be useful for guests. Giving unuseful favor can make your favor goes to trash bin. Give the guest with personalized and useful favor, like camera, candle, pen, or other useful things.



Don't spend too much. Although the favor is your personal statement, but don't spend too much. Some favors cost less than five dollar, others can cost above ten dollars. Choose a favor that fit with your pocket. Save some money for other wedding expenses. Keep find a low cost and unique wedding favor.



Buy at the right amount. After you decide to bulk buy the favors, buy with right amount. You need to estimate the guest number. Don't buy too much. Don't buy too little. Approximate the guest will attend to your wedding and have some extra favors.



Match the season. Yes, match with the season when your wedding ceremony will happen. If your wedding will happen at winter, you can choose winter favor. If your wedding ceremony will happen at summer, you can buy summer theme favors.



Make your own. If you don't satisfy with available favor, you can make your own favor. You can design your own favor and order it to the wedding favor provider. Or you can make by yourself. Look at your own talent. When designing the favor reflect your personality. By making your own favor, you can make a very unique favor.



If you want a cheap, fast, and personalized favor, you can make your own CD favor. You can record your favorite songs and burn it to CD. Create unique cover and label for the CD. Tie it with beautiful ribbon.



So think what favor is fit for you. Choose the favor that reflect your personality, and buy at online stores, or you can make your own favor.


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